I am 39 with 2 kids aged 10 and 6 already. Partners job is not going well and unlikely to get better.
I found out I was 6 weeks pregnant last week. A total accident. Used condoms everytime for the last few years. Thought chances of getting pregnant would be almost impossible since I only have one fallopian tube, removed after the birth of both kids. Both kids took so long to conceive, and the 2nd one we were almost about to start IVF.
Eldest son might have mild aspergers and it's a constant struggle with dealing with his behaviour. Both kids suffer from anxiety from finger biting to complaining about tummy ache and not going school. I am not as calm as I would like to be as I find my son difficult.
So after a very difficult decision, we think we will abort this baby. I have booked a consultation with Marie stopes just to discuss my options tomorrow. But I have heard bad reviews with them, well at least the few centres near me. Then I rang BPAS and the next consultation is 3 weeks time!!! I really cannot wait that long, it's killing me inside...
I looked on mumsnet also at medical pill vs surgical abortion and I originally had my heart set on the pill and being at home but lots of women have commented on how horrific it was and painful to the extent that they felt faint and it was like having contractions!!
I am not good with blood and pain and I don't think I could cope with it. With the surgical procedure, same again I don't think I could cope with being awake.
Marie stopes and BPAS sends patients home to take the pill. Are there any clinics in London where the patient could stay at the clinic while waiting for the second part of the abortion (medical pill) so that pain relieve like gas and air and possibly other forms could be used?