Hi,
I’m expecting my 4th baby and I’m booked in for a termination tomorrow but don’t know what to do.
I have 3 children from a former marriage and I have been with my partner for 15 months. The relationship is very up and down and I am now 8 weeks pregnant.
My partner has a daughter and he has said he doesn’t want this baby. We don’t live together and he is in the process of buying a house for him and his daughter.
This baby wasn’t planned and my head is saying go ahead with the termination but my heart is saying keep it.
He doesn’t want this baby as can’t afford it, doesn’t want it to impact on his daughter and her childhood and doesn't know how she will deal with it. She is almost 8 and has 2 half sisters with her mum but he idolises her. He doesn’t seem to consider me or my kids in this decision.
Do I have a baby that is unwanted and will be without a father - he has said we’re over if I keep it as he will feel like I trapped him - or do I go for the abortion? Either way I feel our relationship is over but I don’t know what to do.
I know no one can tell me what to do but any advice from anyone that has been in this situation?
I’m 42 and he’s 32 so he has time to have another I don’t. But also financially will it be silly to go ahead and make things harder on my children I already have?
I only have 24 hours to decide 😔