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6 years ago today

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OverTheMountain42 · 16/04/2018 10:55

6 years ago today I had an abortion. I think I was around 10 weeks.

Every year on this day I feel awful and cry a lot. I didn't really want to have an abortion and felt really pushed into it, I cried as they were putting me under anaesthetic. So it makes it really hard.

I feel so alone on this day, I don't feel I can talk to anyone because ultimately it was my choice and I went ahead, so I don't really feel like I have the right to grieve either.
The father doesn't remember the date but then he didn't want it so the date wouldn't mean anything to him.

We are lucky, another contraception failure resulted in my DS, people again tried to force me into an abortion but I wasn't doing it this time. They would have been 13 months apart in age and it's difficult as my DS always says he wants a big brother, never a little one.

I didn't know where to post this, I felt beaverement would have been a bit much for those who didn't have a choice, and I'm sorry if it offends anyone in here too. I just wanted to talk.

I don't know if it was the right choice, I'm not sure I'd have had my DS if I hadn't gone through that, I just know it's difficult and it still hurts and I still feel as alone today as I did on this day then.

OP posts:
Echo2 · 16/04/2018 11:07

I had a termination 33 years ago & it still hurts. it was my first pregnancy & I just panicked. I’d only been with my boyfriend a few months and didn’t think I had any other choice.
I regret it to this day so I completely understand how you’re feeling.
I wish I had words of wisdom but I don’t, I suppose the only thing I can say is you just learn to live with it as best you can.

MrsMarigold · 16/04/2018 11:20

I'm sorry to hear both your stories big hugs all round. Flowers

eyestotheskies · 05/05/2018 07:07

Hi Op, I could have written your post. That was my experience almost exactly...pressured into it, crying as they put me under. Took 3 attempts before I went through with it. I regret and think about it every day, I have 3 dc now and always feel like I have someone missing. Their older sibling who would be 15 now. I go through periods when it’s very hard to live with then it will be less painful for a while. I don’t think I will ever come to terms with it.
💐 to you x

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