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Unexpected pregnancy with rocky relationship

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nic000 · 25/03/2018 19:31

My partner and I found out unexpectedly we were pregnant and I'm 6 weeks. This is complete shock to us and we are unsure if we are able to raise this baby. The main reason being is because our relationship has been rocky and I am terrified we will split up and I will be a single mum struggling on my own financially and That isn't what I imagined for my child. We are both 25 and havnt even lived together yet, so that's always a worry. We have only been together for10 months. I was completely devastated the first week but I am calming down a bit now to think more clearly - but I still have no idea what to do. Do I bring this baby into the world knowing it's parents are rocky and could potentially split, (which looks like it's the way this is going recently as he just can't give me what I need - support) or do I go through with termination to try and work on us first to ensure we are stable enough to bring up a baby? Termination has been on my mind a lot but I am also terrified I will have that empty feeling for the rest of my life. Either way right now I feel like I can't see the light at either end of the tunnel. Has anyone else been through this? It would help so much eating your stories and views. Thank you

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Sunshineworshipper · 26/03/2018 17:22

I'm probably not the best for giving advice at this time. I had a surgical abortion 4 weeks ago with complications. Although it was mainly for medical reasons, part of it was relationship being rocky too. Tbh looking back I regret it already. However, due to all the complications it has made us much stronger as a couple. Which makes me think we could have managed. Think it all over very carefully, do not let anyone else influence you and remember you have to live with whatever decision you make forever.

nic000 · 26/03/2018 17:28

@Sunshineworshipper hi lovely thanks for replying. It's so difficult isn't it. I don't think we are strong enough to recover from it but also don't think we're strong enough to go ahead. I think our relationship just has come to an end naturally and this is just very very bad timing. I hope you recover and it's nice to know your relationship is stronger and if it was to happen again you will know what to do xx

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Sunshineworshipper · 26/03/2018 18:23

@nic000 thanks love. That's so sad, but at the same time it is good you have this clarity. I hope you can be strong and be okay in the coming months. It's amazing how strong you can be when you're forced to be xx

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