Dont know what to do

[rightthingwrongtime]

Found out recently that I'm pregnant and have no idea what I want.

Bit of background. I suffer from various gynae issues. As a result I have very irregular periods and have been advised that it would be difficult to get pregnant naturally. I tried with a long term partner with no success for many months.

I have been seeing a FWB occasionally over the past 18 months - 2 years and a few weeks ago we slept together without protection. Didn't really see this as too much of an issue given my past but I have now found out that I am pregnant. I really don't know what to do.

I have wanted a baby for some time and part of me thinks fate has given me what I wanted but the other part of me is saying no, this isn't the right time and you'd be silly to go it alone.

We have spoken at length last night and he has said he doesn't really want a child and the situations is far from idea which is very true. While I have a decent job, my own home and a supportive family my gut feeling is this isn't right. I don't think I can bring a child into the world knowing that its father wouldn't be involved.

I know I was foolish for not using protection and I must now deal with the result. I just really don't know what to do.

Such a tough decision. Do you feel like you could do this alone if you had to? Lots of single mums provide wonderful lives for their children even if the dad isn’t involved-obviously you would prefer him to be I know. Would he come round do you think? It will be tough but sounds like you have support? And means to bring the child up?

I do think I could do it alone by I’m no under no illusion that it will be tough. I’m be seen friends struggle even when their partnee has been around to help and that scares me a little. I’ve been there to support them and no doubt they’ve do the same for me too.

I have a decent job, my own home and a good strong family around me. I think they would be initially be shocked by the scenario but welcome a child none the less if that’s what I choose. However, part of me thinks it’s not fair to have a child when the farther doesn’t want it. Yes we were both mature enough to have unprotected sex and we should be mature enough to deal with the consequences of this but he isn’t. He’s made it very clear that he doesn’t want this and would have nothing to do with me or a child if it chose to continue.

I’m so torn. Knowing that I’ve had so many issues before, including a miscarriage when I was with a long term partner makes me think it could be now or never. The other part of thinks I’d be selfish. I have a great relationship with my dad, my parents are still together and I always thought that’s how it would be when I kids.