I'm here writing this as a mum of 2 who recently was faced with an unplanned pregnancy with my partner of 9 years. Searching the web is a minefield when your facing a million thoughts and especially on the subject of terminating a pregnancy , we felt so alone never finding anything positive to read and only seeing scare threads. This is for all the women and girls out there to know you are not alone and that everyone has a choice , plan , decision and sometimes you can overthink and make a mountain out of a mole hill.
We have 2 children already 8 & 3. I'm a stay at home mum and my partner works till the evenings. Both our kids are loved beyond belief and through both pregnancies I was also blessed with parenting and health anxiety. Our children are everything to us so when those 2 blue lines appeared this year after a missed period we were lost! Having another child was something we were not wanting , planning for or seeing in our lives....We had actively been using preventative measures to assure this would not happen....FAIL!
Initially there was some shock and I began to wonder "would things be so bad?" I have a lot of nieces and nephews and adore their company but do I really want another child?
We booked an appointment a week later with our local family planning centre and both spent 3 hours with a councellor exploring our options. After our in depth talk with her it was so that we were both wanting to terminate the pregnancy for valid reasons , continuing would be wrong for us , our children and the future child as finances and housing just would not run smoothly to do this. Another job , another house , possible school move.....and the harsh truth....a child who undoubtedly would be loved and adored but us knowing initially we did not want it.
Ive never been against abortion nor have I been for it. However I have always been a believer in evaluating any situation in detail and making sure the best options for everyone is made.
Now , everything I read online scared the absolute S* out of me ..."You pour with blood...I nearly died..." I cant and wont even quote anymore as the point in this thread is for everyone to know that everyone and every situation is different....and from my experience their is hope! Emotionally and physically were both (OH) are really ok :)
I was 5 weeks pregnant at the scan during our consultation.
Day 1 .. I took the 1st tablet to block the pregnancy hormone. The beginning of the medical abortion. No side effects but I was a little tired at tea time
Day 3.. I placed 4 dissolvable tablets under my tongue to start the uterine lining to shed. After 20 minutes I began to cramp mildly like the day before your period , I decided to go to the loo to pee and passed a small clot about a 10p size of dark blood.
I took 2 ibuprofen and cuddled on the sofa with a water bottle for 40mins as the cramping did increase. Id say 6 out of 10 for pain , sore but bearable. My two kids were still running wild and OH was pottering around the house un concerned as it honestly seemed like it was aunt flo making her appearance as per. After40 mins the pain suddenly stopped , it was weird I was actually waiting for it to return but it never did.
I was still bleeding bright red but was like a heavier period. I was only using medium flow sanitary towels and never once even half soaked through them. I passed around 5 clots this day and the bleeding stayed as described. I cooked dinner and done a washing. By kids bedtime I had had a shower but felt quite tired.
11pm and the bleeding had lessened to that of day 2 0r 3 of usual period.
Day 4...No cramping and bleeding still as of normal period. Took antibiotics prescribed to stop any infection of uterine lining (protocol).
Light bleeding for 6 days in total.
1 week after taking the first tablet I passed a final prune like clot after some moderate cramping which was cured with a paracetamol.
Today is day 10. No bleeding now for 2 days , no cramp , no discharge , no pregnancy symptoms , no regrets!
This was a choice made by a loving couple and a mother and father who daily put their children first. This is for all these women and girls who are scared , worried that they don't know what to do. Our decision was right for us and may not be right for everyone emotionally or physically. But please don't be like me , I very nearly went through with a pregnancy that we did not want based on the fact I was scared of all the abortion physical symptoms I had read online. Its really not that bad physically , you don't pour , nearly die or scream.
sorry this was a long thread , I wish I had a thread like this to keep me positive at times.
All the best to everyone in any decisions they make regarding pregnancies and future pregnancies.