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Pregnancy choices

This topic is for sharing experiences of pregnancy choices; to debate the ethics of termination, visit our Politics or Chat forums.

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Abortion at 12 weeks

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CP96 · 15/01/2018 13:47

Has anyone had a abortion at 12 weeks? Is so did you see the scan? What was the pain like? I'm booked in on Friday to have a surgical abortion and really scared.

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Lifeofpies · 15/01/2018 14:10

Hi CP96, so sorry, it must be very scary. There is a dedicated place on mumsnet for discussing abortion and I think you’ll get more advice and support there. It’s under ‘body and soul’ and is called pregnancy choices.

QueenAravisOfArchenland · 15/01/2018 14:40

You won't be shown the scan unless you ask to be. The screen is turned away from you by default.

I've had a surgical TFMR with conscious sedation and it didn't really hurt. Bit uncomfortable, lasted less than 5 minutes. I had a bit of a reaction to the meds afterwards and was sick but that's fairly unusual.

You will be fine honestly.

CuppaSarah · 15/01/2018 14:43

A friend had it at 20 weeks after a failed termination at 8 weeks went undiscovered till then. She had conscious sedation and doesn't really remember it. She said it wasn't very painful and the recovery was very quick. You will be ok, I'm so sorry you're having to go through this

owltrousers · 15/01/2018 15:01

I had a medical termination at 15 weeks. I never saw the scan, they kept the screen pointed away from me.

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LornaMumsnet · 15/01/2018 15:37

Hi OP,

We're sorry very sorry to hear that you're going through this. We're just going to send your thread over to pregnancy choices as we feel you'll get more support over there.

canderella · 16/01/2018 13:27

I had one at 12 weeks and I saw the scan. I regret it to this day but then again my situation was different i didnt want one to begin with but was forced in to it. You will have normal cramps after for a few days but you will be ok. Any qs send me a message. Good luck

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CP96 · 16/01/2018 14:36

Can you see everything in the scan? I'm so worried I'll regret doing it. I'm worried about the pain

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Mummyh2016 · 16/01/2018 14:40

I had a surgical abortion 8 years ago. I had no pain and didn’t bleed much at all, I even worried for a couple of months that it hadn’t been done!
I didn’t see the scan, they turned the screen away.
I hope it all goes okay.

canderella · 16/01/2018 14:52

Don't worry about pain. Everyone does. When I woke up initially I had horrific pain they said it was the uterus contracting but they give you pain meds and then it was all over. Regarding regret, no one can help you there. Only you know why you want to terminate and what your situation is like. I think every woman will regret to a certain extent but some more than others. I regretted my first instantly then after a while I realised why I done it and it was the best decision at the time

FundayMorning · 16/01/2018 15:01

Have you had counselling OP? Is this your own choice or has someone else been involved in your decision? It must be your own choice. You have options. I'm so sorry for your anxiety, do you want to talk about it?

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CP96 · 16/01/2018 15:24

Its just a hard decision. I'm 21 years old live with my partners parents. I'm about to loose my job as the company is going bust. We just feel it is for the best but then in my heart I just feel awful and don't know what to do.

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FundayMorning · 16/01/2018 19:23

Obviously I don't know you or your situation so wouldn't want to offer advice, especially as it would be loaded with my personal viewpoint.

The important thing is to listen to your own heart. I really hope you've got someone in real life you can talk to and discuss your options. Mum? Friend? Colleague? Someone who knows you. Nobody online can really help other than tell you about their own experience. It will be different for everyone.

canderella · 19/01/2018 09:47

Have you decided what your going to do?

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CP96 · 19/01/2018 15:27

Made a decision when we were there and decided to carry on the pregnancy. 11 weeks 5 day

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Tinty · 19/01/2018 15:34

Congratulations and Good luck I hope it all goes well for you

OverTheParapet · 19/01/2018 15:37

Congratulations OP 💖

LizB62A · 19/01/2018 15:38

Best of luck xx

notanother11plusmum · 19/01/2018 15:39

Oh congratulations OP! That's fantastic news. You won't regret it.

Well done x

HairyBallTheorem · 19/01/2018 15:50

Good luck, OP, enjoy your baby.

And (as someone who's been through redundancy and knows what a devastating experience that is) you will get through this - it is shit, but you will find you're strong enough, and you will get another job when the time is right to start looking.

Whensday · 19/01/2018 16:22

Oh that's great OP. Wishing you all the best.

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CP96 · 19/01/2018 17:47

Thanks everyone. It was a hard decision but the right decision for us. As for Marie Stopes will not be using them again. Really didn't get the support we needed. We felt like we were belittled. Looking forward to a happy healthy pregnancy x

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mamadrummer · 19/01/2018 17:52

I really support abortion and think it should be easier to access. I am very pro choice and always support a pregnant persons right to choose

I had an abortion and it was best decision of my life. I kept my second pregnancy and it was the best decision of my life. My point is you KNOW in your heart. I had no doubt that an abortion was right in scenario 1 just like I knew that this was MY baby and I was keeping him in 2. Best of luck xxx

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