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Pregnancy choices

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Medical abortion, help! I'm so scared

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Isismacdonald · 10/12/2017 14:12

5 days ago I got the early medical abortion at 7 weeks and 4 days. It wasn't the easiest decision but I am 19 and at uni and I couldn't have a baby at this point in my life. The whole process was scary but the staff at BPAS made me feel safe and I left the clinic after the abortion feeling so relieved. Nothing happened that night except some normal level bleeding that I would usually have on my period. This scared me because from what I was told and read online I thought I would see some clots and possibly the sac - I'd know it was over. The next day I passed some large blood clots and assumed I'd passed the pregnancy, my cramps subsided and although my bleeding got a little heavier I felt like it was done. Fast forward to today, 5 days after the actual abortion, I start to feel hot and sick and cramps suddenly intensified. I felt as if I HAD to go to the toilet, I wasn't sure why, I sat there for about 5 minutes feeling sick and trying to calm myself down as I felt very weird... then I felt something come out and heard it drop in the toilet. Stupidly I looked, and I saw a tiny little baby. I started to cry and my boyfriend came up to the toilet, I told him not to look and just flushed...

Sorry for being graphic but I'm so upset and scared right now:( is it normal for the pregnancy to pass nearly a week after the abortion?? I feel less sick now but still have cramps, will I pass anything else?
I just want this to be over

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Chaosofcalm · 10/12/2017 14:17

I am so sorry you are going through this sweetheart.

When I had my miscarriage I had ‘retained products’ which came out over a week after I thought it was all over. Having anything left inside you then it can cause an infection. Did BPAS give you a helpline number? I would ring them or your out of hours doctors.

It is OK for you to be upset and grieve and it is also OK if you don’t need to.

Hermagsjesty · 10/12/2017 14:20

I’m so sorry that you’re going through this. It must all be very frightening and upsetting. I would ring the BPAS helpline or an out of hours G.P just to be sure.

SmiledWithTheRisingSun · 10/12/2017 14:32

Bless you OP and hugs.

I had one if these years ago.
It was horrible and I felt dreadful.
It wasn't the right time for me to have baby's either.

I now have kids and if I ever think about it, which is very rare, I think thank goodness I did it as I wouldn't have had the beautiful children I now have if I had kept that baby.

If you're having a medical abortion it's really early. The foetus would be the size of a raspberry. It's not a baby yet.

You will feel sad and emotional. And I'm sure it's not a decision you made lightly. But if it feels like it was the right decision when you made it it probably was. So much worse to have a baby when you don't feel ready in my opinion.

Be kind to yourself and look after yourself and get the doctors to check you when you've stopped bleeding to make sure everything came out.

You will be ok

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Isismacdonald · 10/12/2017 16:16

Thank you so much guys for your support x I'm going to ring the bpas helpline soon as I'm so worried about getting an infection, hopefully all will be fine

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Whishkeeey · 10/12/2017 16:20

You poor thing .

This happened to me too at your age. It was quite alarming and made me feel really panicked and weird, but years later (40 with two children I had in my late 20s and early 30s) it was the right decision.

I’d say still get checked out by a doctor though, to make sure everything is as it should be. And hope you’re getting some TLC and support in RL.

Take care.

Auspiciouspanda · 10/12/2017 16:21

Did they give you a test to do after the abortion? What did that say?

roastandyorkies · 10/12/2017 18:50

I'm sorry this has happened to you. I too passed a large clot the day after the pills and assumed it was over. It's hideous. It makes a bad situation worse 😞

I hope you can get the after support you need from bpas. They were great with me. Definitely get checked out though to ensure you don't have retained products or anything xxx

RandomMess · 10/12/2017 18:51

JessicaPeach · 10/12/2017 23:08

Auspicious you dont do they test they give you until 2 weeks later, so its a bit soon for the op.

Hope you are ok op, at 7w the baby is so tiny im surprised you could identify anything in the loo with other blood, it might have just been another clot. Definitely get in touch with bpas, im sure they will be helpful.

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