Hi everyone
My name is Ava and I'm 25 years old.
I have never posted on a forum like this before but I would appreciate your advice so much as I am finding myself sometimes feeling a bit overwhelmed that I am in this situation. I have been waking up at the moment at around 2am every morning feeling so nauseous and I guess for now i just want some reassuring words to maybe make the situation that bit better.
I found out on Sunday that I am pregnant as my period was late by 2 weeks and I took a test hoping it was just my period being irregular but was so shocked to see it was a positive result.
My boyfriend and I have discussed the pregnancy in depth and understand this is the complete wrong time for us to have a baby. We can't provide for a baby at the moment with our combined salaries, we're not yet living together (saving to move out together at the moment) and we're just at the beginning of our careers in which we have recently began embarking on further qualifications. Emotionally, we are also not ready for a child and know in our heart of hearts this is not the right time. We have been together for 4 years and have discussed wanting to get married one day and have children in the future but we always said it would be hopefully when we are in our late 20s as we'd be in a much stable position to be great parents and give a child a good life that it deserves.
My last period was on 10th July which medically makes me 6 weeks+1 day pregnant.
I rang Marie Stopes on Monday (21st August) and spoke to a lovely lady who was very calming and arranged for me to have an official telephone consultation on Thursday this week (24th August) . I have opted that I would like to have a medical abortion through the Stoke Gifford Marie Stopes branch in Bristol.
Has anyone here ever had a medical abortion and if so, when you had your consultation on the phone how long did it then take before your first appointment where you took the first tablet? And how did the whole process work for you?
I would be so grateful for your advice. I feel lucky and more calm knowing that my boyfriend has assured me he will be there every step of the way and will accompany me to my appointments and be there when I am having the abortion. We have decided that we want to keep this just between ourselves and not tell family members as it's quite a personal and nerve wracking time for us right now and know that the best support we need to stay strong is from each other rather than other family members and friends perhaps giving unwanted opinions.
Also I was wondering should I take anti sickness tablets just before I go to bed at night to stop myself from waking up in the middle of the night with the nausea? I didn't know if this is a dangerous thing to do.
Thank you so much for your time in advance :)
Ava xx