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Advice please

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inarightpickle123 · 11/08/2017 09:08

Hi everyone

I found out on Monday I was pregnant. Approx 4 and a bit weeks. Missed period and familiar symptoms led me to test.
Sounds awful but I was gutted that it was positive. No idea what happened as taking all the precautions.

I have 2 children aged almost 6 and 20 months.
Having a 3rd was never in the plan and whilst I have thought about continuing with the pregnancy, there are several reasons why I shouldn't. 2nd child extremely demanding, no space at home, Money, I suffer horribly when pregnant and am miserable to the point of prenatal depression and almost died when I had 2nd child.
I don't want a 3rd but I feel so sad at the though of having a termination even though that's what I want.
I suppose my question being is, will I always regret it? Has anyone felt sad at having a termination but knew it was the right thing for their situation?
Medical is my first thought as I'm still early enough and the thought of either being awake or put to sleep whilst its done, panics me. But I go abroad in 10 days and cant get in for my initial appointment until Friday next week as we are currently away at the moment too.
I haven't told anyone except for DH. He says he will support me whatever.

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Smarties01 · 11/08/2017 16:30

Hi,
I've posted on here a few times as I found myself in the same situation as you. I was 42 when I found out I was unexpectedly pregnant, failed contraception. I have 2 children who were 5 & 3 at the time and when I found out that I was pregant, (although I knew instantly), I went into complete panic mode.
I knew immediately that I couldn't go through with the pregnancy, I'd suffered terribly with SPD with both pregnancies and to me my family was complete.
I was 100% sure what I wanted and my husband said he'd support me whatever decision I made.
I had a medical termination at 5 +6 .
This is what happened to me and please note that we're all different and deal with things in different ways:
Sine the termination I have suffers with anxiety and depression, I'm now on antidepressants. I've had CBT and counselling. Only now I feel like I'm moving on, it's been 16 months since the procedure. It's something that I'll never forget but I know in my heart I made the right choice for me and my family.
Only you can decide what's best for you, but remember you're not alone.
Sending you hugs xx

Smarties01 · 11/08/2017 16:42

Apologies for typos!

inarightpickle123 · 11/08/2017 17:35

Thanks Smarties.

I suppose that's one of my concerns, I know it's the right thing for my family, but i fear that I will not necessarily regret my decision, but really struggle to deal with it.
Can I ask how was the medical termination?

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Smarties01 · 11/08/2017 18:27

The medical procedure was fine. I had read online about it and was absolutely petrified, however, it was no worse than a period. I took 2 paracetamol and had a warm hot water bottle and by the evening I was up and about.
Please be kind to yourself.
Xx

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