Meant to be having an operation today...

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And they told me I'm pregnant. I have the coil, this is not meant to happen. I don't want another baby. I'm going to have to have an abortion. It's not fair, I'm on contraceptives so I don't have to be in this position. I feel so lost

Ahh sorry you've had that sprung on you! Did they say how far along are you? Have you got someone you can talk to in RL? Obviously contraception is not 100% effective, but I know that doesn't help you at the moment :(

I'm on my way home. I talked to my dh. This is so fucked up. Those poor women who struggle so much and here I bloody am. I'm just numb. I don't know what to do

I'm sorry you're in this position - having something like that sprung on you is awful (I have a friend who found out she was pregnant while undergoing gynae tests for something not related to pregnancy). Did they give you any indication of how progressed things are?

It sucks so much when you do all you're meant to and still wind up having to go through this. If you've time, don't rush things - your head must be reeling

Hopefully this also doesn't cause problems for your operation - can you reschedule it?

Thankfully can reschedule. I've no clue how far along, with the coil I was used to my periods being a bit irregular.

Good to know it doesn't jeopardise the operation - at least that's one thing you don't have to worry about.

If you don't know dates then maybe it is worth making the call sooner rather than later - you dont have to make a decision at all, but at least they can date it and outline your options. I know it feels horribly out of control right now but if you have the facts you can have a think.

I am one of those 'poor women who struggle so much.' It seems you feel guilt because of that - don't!! My baby (whenever it does and however it does finally come along) has nothing to do with your situation.

You do what's right for you - I think you're much better placed to make that decision than me!! It really is terrible that you have the coil and are in this situation, but it sounds like you know what's right for you, and I just wanted to lend my support.

I hope you'll find its very early days so you have a little while to decide in a considered way. My friend has the same thing, was very content with her 3 DDs and was dismayed to conceive. Her DS was born clutching the coil in his fist! It's pretty rare though.

Poor you.