Abortion booked for Tuesday- so confused

[Babyfairy0923]

Hi everyone,

I am 6wks pregnant and have an abortion booked for Tuesday after a failed morning after pill.
I am married with 2 boys already aged 5 and 3.
It was such a shock when I found out and since then I have been so confused about what to do and change my mind on a daily basis.
My main worries about having this baby would be that I wouldn't be able to cope with 3- I find my 2 such a challenge already and I don't want to be a bad mother to them by not having time for them all and being exhausted and grumpy constantly.
Other concerns are money and house size but we could just about scrape by.
I know people can't tell me what to do but any advice would be appreciated at this difficult time

Hugs, op I won't tell you what to do as it's nobodies choice but your own. Be kind to yourself and whatever you decide it's whats right for you.

Such a hard situation to be in. You sound so very torn and I can't imaging how you're feeling.
The decision is all how you and your family and how you think this baby would impact you all. Would the boys absolutly love a sibling or would they not? Would the baby be any good for your mental and physical health? Would this change yours and your husband/partners relationship at all and if it would, would it be in a positive or a negative way? There's so much to weigh up and of course you can't just work off a pro's and con's list but you do have to make sure it is something you can all cope with.
I'm sorry I've not been much help but ultimately the decision is yours and your husbands.
I hope you make a choice that is right for you and that you have peace with what ever you decide.
Thinking of you x

Do you have specific worries about coping (did you suffer pnd) or general worries?
Do either of your children go to nursery?
Do you have family support?
Do you work?

Agh sorry eldest is 5. What are your coping mechanisms.
When mine were young I could cope with most bad days as long as I had a break coming.

Thank you for your replies.
I think it would definitely impact on mine and my husbands relationship as we already have a tough time to be honest, my husband doesn't cope well with the boys and then we argue about discipline etc, money is also an issue.
I just fear having three children too much for me to handle, I don't drive and I have very little family support and as I said I find 2 children so so hard.
My oldest son is at school and my youngest has just started nursery 2 mornings a week.
I just wish I was a super mum who could handle more children but I don't feel I have it in me I know I'm a good mum to the 2 that I have even though it's so hard but I think with another baby I wouldn't cope.

You don't have to do anything that you don't feel like you can physically cope with. It is without a doubt a difficult decision to make. You do sound like you know it will be difficult for all involved but I can understand that you may feel guilty too. You have to remember that guilt may be with you whatever you decide to do. Please don't beat yourself up with any decision that you make. I'm sure whichever you choose will be right by you.

You should post on the pregnancy choices board, not on the pregnancy one really. It can be quite upsetting for people who are TTC, pregnant after miscarriage or newly pregnant for abortion threads to crop up in 'pregnancy'.

It is is the 'body and soul' section of the site. To get your post removed report it to hq and ask for it to be moved there. You will also get more advice from others in similar situations.

Hello,

We're just sending this over to pregnancy choices for the OP.

I hope you're ok OP x

OP, I was in the same situation as you in March last year. I found out that I was pregnant aged 42 with 2 children, then aged 5&3.
After going through a whole range of emotions I decided on a termination with the support of my husband.
I'd had 2 bad pregnancies previously as I suffered with SPD and with taking my age into account I felt that another child would tip me over the edge. I have 2 healthy boisterous boys and like you I do find it hard at times.
I wanted to protect the children that I already had but also as selfish as it sounds, protect me too.
I had the termination at 5+6 and I opted for the medical option.
That was over a year ago now and I do still think of the what ifs every day but I know in my heart I made the right choice as hard as it was.
There's only you that knows the impact of either choice.
My heart goes out to you as I know how broken I felt. Sending you love and light xxx