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Considering an abortion

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Leah67890 · 07/06/2017 22:43

Hello, I already have two children 5 and 10month. Recently just found out I am pregnant, my first thought was "I don't want this, I can't do this, I can't keep it".
Straight away I phone the clinic and arranged my consultation and termination for the same day, baring in mind that's only if it can be done that day by medical abortion or not.

The more I'm thinking about it, the less sure I am about whether that is the right choice for me, will I regret the abortion? Could I live with knowing I aborted my child? My friend is due to have a baby late this year, will it bring back what ifs, and imagining what my child would look like?

My relationship isn't the best, currently breaking up, we've not been getting on since the baby was born really, due to him not stepping up to the plate and doing things a dad should be doing or making any effort to help me.

So then there's my next question; would I cope with a 6 year old, 1 year old and a newborn on my own, with no support at home, just me and my children?

I've coped perfectly fine with two so far, good day and nighttime routines, household routine etc... everything is going very well so far being a single parent to two children.
Would I copbe financially, emotionally and physically with three children on my own though? That's my biggest worry.

Any advice would be more than helpful.

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Theworldisfullofidiots · 07/06/2017 22:52

I think you need to talk to someone unjudgemental in real life.
My advice is also to think about the impact of having another child on your two existing dc as well as the impact on you.
Its your life and only you can know what's best for you.

Leah67890 · 07/06/2017 23:28

I have, but hasn't been very helpful where my decision is concerned. I just don't want to regret the abortion, that's what I fear the most.

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Theworldisfullofidiots · 08/06/2017 06:16

It's an emotional vs head decision.
I suppose the question is what kind of life do you want for your children? Can you do that with three on your own?
(I'm guessing you've kind of made up your mind and want someone to validate your decision. You don't need approval from anyone else.)

Leigh67890 · 08/06/2017 07:09

I think maybe the only way I'll know what I'm going to do, is the day I attend my appointment, I think on that day I'll just know.

PurpleDaisies · 08/06/2017 07:12

I think maybe the only way I'll know what I'm going to do, is the day I attend my appointment, I think on that day I'll just know.

I think that's a bad plan bs aide it's likely to be an emotional day if you're not sure whether you're doing the right thing or not. I'd go for impartial counselling now to help you make a reasoned decision.

SexTrainGlue · 08/06/2017 07:12

I hope you don't mind, but I've reported your post to MNHQ to get it moved out of the contraception topic and in to the 'pregnancy choices' topic where the best/most experienced support for all issues around termination is likely to be had.

Leigh67890 · 08/06/2017 07:25

No, course I don't mind, I couldn't find where to post last night as I'm new to this, only just found the pregnancy choices thread this morning. Thank you!

LornaMumsnet · 08/06/2017 09:58

Hi all,

We're moving this over to pregnancy choices now.

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