I'm in need of advice please

[Poppy2017]

Hello. I really don't know what to do and need help please. I am 16 weeks pregnant. My baby wasn't planned and I have only just found out. My boyfriend doesn't want anything to do with it or me if I go ahead which I want to do. He already has 3 children and doesn't want any more. He is 46 and I am 25. He has thrown me out of his flat so I am living with friends short term. I have little money and only a part time 25 hours a week job as a receptionist in an optician which I have been doing for 3 years. He said I can go back if I get rid of my baby. He is being very cruel and will not discuss with me. Everything is about his 3 children who he sees every weekend. He won't let me meet them. I don't know what to do. I want my baby but how can I?

There's no way that he'll take you back after an abortion. Would you want you get back with him anyway after how he's treated you? He's shown his true colours.

Think about whether you want the baby and do that. People do make being single mums work. There are other options if you feel you can't. You can get impartial counselling through your gp.

Like @PurpleDaisies said I don't think he will take you back even if you terminate and would you be able to go back to him when you say you want this baby?

There are options for you, whether you choose to keep the baby and raise it on your own - which lots of people do and do fantastically

You could go for adoption or a termination

Nobody can make this choice but you, I think you may of had a lucky escape from your partner if he was that quick to throw you out and said he doesn't want the baby

I'm guessing as he already has children he knows how the process works and if he didn't want anymore he (and you) should've spoken about it first and settled on a contraceptive (I know they aren't 100%)

I hope you make the right decision for you OP it's a hard one but do what feels right for you

so sorry that you are in this situation. if you want the baby you will cope. i suggest your dp researches abortion last 16 weeks and reconsiders what he is asking you to do.

Can you get some family support?

This isn't legally the case and I'm very pro choice but I think 16 weeks is too late for an abortion unless there is something seriously wrong with the baby. But it really is your choice. Your choice and not his. You will manage and it sounds like you want to manage. He's scum for treating you like this in these circumstances, I hope that no matter what, you never get back with this man.

You will manage OP, and probably better as a single parent than stuck to your asshole DP. Is there anyone who can help you?

Thank you for answering me. I have only friends as my mum died 3 years ago. I don't know where my dad is as he left my mum when I was 7. He said he won't have anything to do with me or the baby. He may change his mind once I have it. I do want this baby but I wish he did to. I can't stop crying and feel so alone. I have my friends but it isn't the same.

Oh my dear girl.
Do you talk about this with you`re friends you are staying at?
I wish you peace, so you can reach the best decision for you.

Hugs

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@Poppy2017 as hard as it is you need to separate yourself from him to make this decision, don't think about if he may change his mind, make your decision based on the facts now