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Please help me , need some wise words

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organixeveryday · 19/03/2017 10:30

So I did a test this morn and I'm pregnant.
Think I'm probably about 5/6 weeks gone, wasn't on any BC as I had really struggled (year and a half) previously to get pregnant with DC1 and hadn't been on anything in between either (17 months).
I have a 17 month old child who does see his dad every weekend and in the week too, although we aren't together it's fairly amicable etc.
I have been with my current partner for 9 months , he is fantastic with my son, said he wished he was his dad etc , seemed to love being part of our family.
I have helped him through a preciriptiokb drug addiction along with other things and I thought all was well.

I present this pregnancy test to him this morning , and he says that he doesn't think he ever wants children ever (although he had said a year from now would be the time to start trying ) , he thinks that having my Dc on the Saturday of every weekend is a real pain in the arse, and that he wants me to have an abortion ASAP.

Now I am torn as I didn't have siblings growing up and I desperately want my child to have a playmate and someone to help them through the rough times (my own DM is suffering with terminal cancer and I have no family support really so could do with a sibling) and also my son is everything to me and I couldn't imagine killing the child inside me.

Please help me out here. I have a place of my own, sufficient funds to raise a baby and toddler at least , and all the equipment etc.
I have many many friends too locally , and a large support network. I just want to do the right thing. I have told my DM and she says do whatever is right for you and basically keep it.

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organixeveryday · 22/03/2017 20:15

He's actually been incredibly proactive already about checking work contracts and thinking about furniture moving and stuff.

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LosingDory · 22/03/2017 22:37

Yes...but has he explained why he said what he did about your son? That sort of thing doesn't just come from nowhere

organixeveryday · 22/03/2017 22:44

He knows that was a major thing to say and he's apologised over and over and over again.
I think we can all agree that you never have quite the same allegiance to a child who isn't biologically yours as the child who is. ..

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