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DP is angry that I won't terminate

29 replies

Fuscus · 05/01/2016 19:15

I don't really want any advice, I just need to vent a bit.

I'm 12 weeks pg by accident. Well, carelessness really. DP was really supportive when I said I'd consider all the options - having the baby & also not. He said we'd work it out, we'd get through it together etc etc.

I can't go through with a termination. It was booked but I cannot bring myself to go there. I have told DP repeatedly over the past few weeks that I can't go to the clinic. Yet, when I told him at the weekend that it meant there would be a baby in July, he flipped and said how I was ruining everyone's lives because I 'won't' do something. Apparently, he didn't know that 'I can't go' meant that there would be a baby.

Apparently this is all my fault because I 'randomly stopped taking the pill' - I didn't - we discussed it because it made me feel awful & he agreed that I seemed much more myself when I was off it. We knew we needed to be careful but weren't. So, here we are. I'm having a baby that 'no-one wants' because I am too selfish to do something I can't bring myself to do.

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rainbowstardrops · 27/01/2016 16:34

You sound like you'd be much more upset to lose this baby than you would to lose your dp. Speaks volumes.

ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight · 27/01/2016 16:38

Led you on! What a dick. How has he been recently?

expatinscotland · 27/01/2016 16:44

'He does support his other children.'

He has form.

Led him on, my arse. You're 10-year-old will be fine.

'You sound like you'd be much more upset to lose this baby than you would to lose your dp. Speaks volumes.'

Losing a person like this isn't a loss. He's a dick.

lostinmiddlemarch · 27/01/2016 17:03

Good for you for going with your deepest feelings. Not easy.

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