Only been with dp 10 months... What to do?

[OhWhatAPalaver]

Just found out I'm pregnant. Period a week late so not very far along. I already have a 3 year old who will be starting school next year. Problem is me and dp have only been together ten months. If it had been a 2 or 3 years I probably would be ok with it but ten months?? Not sure. I love him dearly as does my dd but not sure if we're ready for a baby just yet... We don't even live together!

I had lots of health issues after the birth of dd and was exhausted for the best part of a year but my ex was not supportive to say the least. I think my dp would be a fantastic father and we are very happy together but I don't want to make the same mistake as I did last time, ie have a child too early on with an unsuitable man... Although I definitely don't think dp in unsuitable, I think he's amazing, but argh! Hormones are not helping! What do I do???

Can you cope with the pregnancy on your own and then two children as a lone parent?

I don't think "10 months" matters. It's the quality of your relationship that's important.

Does your DP know? You need to sit down with him and talk to through. Probably his initial reaction will help you understand how supportive he will be.

Remember though, what happens with this pregnancy is up to you and you alone.

I must say that I don't think ten months is enough time to see someone's true flaws. They usually emerge when the honeymoon period is over.

Tbh given the fact you already have one DC with someone else. I would wait longer to have a child with this man.

Good luck either way!

Thanks for the replies. I told him the news at 6am this morning just after dd woke up so we can't talk about it yet! I very much doubt I would have to cope alone as we have a very good relationship and I think I know all his flaws... He certainly knows all mine!

My dd is always going on about wanting a sibling so that doesn't help either.

I really have no idea what to do. I guess I'll know better when we've had the chance to talk about it...

Dp seems very keen, which was unexpected! Feeling a bit more positive about it now... Just hope we make the right decision!

Sounds good then. One day at a time now.