I'm 26 year old girl, who works, goes to college & lives with my (overbearing) parents. I got pregnant 8 years ago with my boyfriend who I have been with for 9 years now. I was only 18 & a senior in High Schoolso my boyfriend & I made the very difficult decisions to have an abortion. Having a very controlling, judgmental mother, we decided to keep the abortion between just him & I. Long story shortjust a few days ago my mother came storming into my room looking for a shirt that she thought I had borrowed from her. Throwing everything out of my closet, my drawers, making a huge, unnecessary mess. While doing so, she found a large envelope (that contained my abortion records). Without asking, she opened it up & read my records. She began screaming at me, asking how I could do this to her, saying that I "killed" what could have been her only grandchild, saying she will never forgive me, ect. Throughout the past 7 years, I've dealt with major depression & anxiety which has stemmed from the abortion...so hearing my mother say these things made me feel absolutely worse. She has even told my father about it and some other family members. Now, EVERYONE is judging me. She told me that since I live in her house, that she had the right to go through my papers & know such an important thing.
PLEASE, please give me your suggestions about what step I should take next. I cannot even look at my mother right now-as she is still trying to make me feel guilty about the decision I made 7 years ago. She has zero respect for my privacy and I really feel as though I need to move out of this toxic household if I ever want to completely heal. I have every right to be angry at my mother, correct? =/ Would it be silly of me to move out over this? I feel SO betrayed!
Thank you SO MUCH for any responses.
I appreciate it beyond words!