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Pregnancy choices

This topic is for sharing experiences of pregnancy choices; to debate the ethics of termination, visit our Politics or Chat forums.

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Don't know where to turn

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milkyman · 03/09/2015 15:39

Today 15:36 milkyman

I'm just 40 and found out i am nearly 8 weeks pregnant. I have a nearly 3 ds. To say i am devastated is an understatement. I didnt think it through. I had a terrible birth experience and the 1st year was the worst of my life. I feel terrible saying all this. Its all just come back to me. I was making plans for the future so not coping. I have a supportive dh, nice home so dont know why i feel like this.

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MotherKat · 04/09/2015 12:26

Please go and get some help honey. Your doctor should be able to refer you for emergency counselling. I'm not going to try and diagnose over the internet, I'm just sending you love and hope. X

thisisnow · 04/09/2015 13:53

When you say you were making plans for the future do you mean you were feeling happy in your life?

Sorry this is such a hard time for you and I hope you can come to a decision soon.

horsewalksintoabar · 04/09/2015 13:57

Oh OP...it is hard. I had my last at 42. But ours was a very much wanted baby, though we were surprised.

Give it a week to absorb. Give it time and thought. See your GP in the meantime as the above poster so kindly suggested. It's your call and you'll know what to do. Let the shock wear off and then see how you feel. At least, if you feel the same way bybthen, you will be less shocked and able to approach your final decision with more calm.

Thurlow · 04/09/2015 15:01

In which way are you not coping? Do you feel able to talk a bit more about it at the moment?

If not on here, then please do see your GP or call Marie Stopes or BPAS for support. None of them are there just to support terminations, they will support and advise on all aspects of unexpected pregnancies.

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milkyman · 04/09/2015 17:12

Thanks all. I went to see gp but think she misunderstood my problems - she wanted to refer for mc counselling as i had one last year. We hadnt decided but you dont know what you want until you get it. Life was getting back to normal - i was having fun and thinking about careers again. I love my ds so much, particularly now hes talking and funny. I enjoy older children so much more. I feel so selfish but not sure i could consider any other options but i feel too old.

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