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Confused and scared. Pregnant through failed morning after pill

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Chloeisobelle21 · 30/08/2015 10:16

Hi all. I'm new here and one of the reasons I joined is because I just don't know where to turn. I've been seeing a man that I met off a dating site since May time. From then until now he has constantly messed me around, told me he wants a relationship with me and then changed his mind and generally just playing games with me. We had a huge argument not long ago, and I stopped all contact with him. He then contacted me a week later promising me the world and me feeling vulnerable (because I really did like him) let him back in.
Now I've not been on any contraception for a long time and stupidly since we met we haven't use condoms a lot but used the 'pulling out method' basically the night he came around he told me that he was going to do his business in me (sorry TMI) and I told him no. He thought it was a huge joke, layed there and laughed at me and told me he had finished. I was mortified. He gave me the money to get the morning after pill and then left. I took the morning after pill the next day and didn't think anything of it.
Well fast forward to 3 weeks later I've just found out I'm pregnant! So the pill hasn't worked! I've contacted him and all he says is to get a termination and when I told him I don't think I can do that he's now blocked my number and won't talk to me at all :(
I'm so lost for what to do, I am already a single mum to an 18 month old who sees her dad at weekends which gives me a much needed break but I don't think this man will ever want to be involved. I'm petrified and I feel so alone. I have support of my friends and family but I feel like my life is just crumbling around me. Will I cope with 2 young children as a single mum??? I just don't think I can face a termination, I'm already wondering if it's a boy or a girl and feeling maternal. I would just love some advice or comforting words. I'm also worried what people are going to say about me, I don't want rumours going around about me as people don't know my situation :(
Can anyone help? Or has anyone been in a similar situation?

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Konserve · 30/08/2015 10:24

it's not about him, it's about what you want.

if you decide to have the baby, go after him through the official channels for the maintenance money.

good luck!

YouBastardSockBalls · 30/08/2015 10:28

If you don't want a termination, then you have no option but to cope.

And you will cope. You're already doing it. Flowers

Do you have any family support?

And have you booked in with the midwife yet? If you've been using the withdrawal non method, then you may be more pregnant than you think.

Flowers
Chloeisobelle21 · 30/08/2015 10:35

I do have family support, my family live just down the road from me. I have yea, I'm having an internal scan on Thursday to see if everything is okay. From day to day and hour to hour I am changing my mind, I wake up in a blind panic thinking my god I can't do this. And then a few hours later I'm thinking I can't have a termination. I'm just so confused. I also had a horrible labor with my first and that's also a big worry for me.

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Chloeisobelle21 · 30/08/2015 10:37

My last period was the 28th of July. So I should only be a few weeks at the most 4.

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