No idea what the right choice is

[Emma2015]

Okay long story sort I am a victim of a jealous and abusive ex that I am now far away from however I have found out I am pregnant with his baby. It is likely he will be in jail for most of the baby's early life due to the violence and abuse however i am worried when he gets out and my child wants to know who his father is he will manipulate the baby and twist our past against me. A common thing when we were together. Long story short i need advice whether to bring this baby into the world and run this risk and be a single mum (slightly hoping he would be one of those fathers that never wants to see their child) or abort so they never have to experience what I have. I want to keep the baby but I'm not sure... I just need some advice. I hope this makes sense... I less then 4 weeks pregnant.

If you want to keep the baby, you should keep it. If your ex has a history (and conviction) for violence then I would've thought any contact with your child would have to be supervised? You will be your baby's main carer in the early years. Have confidence in yourself to do a great job and give your child a loving and secure start. The bond you'll create won't be easily broken by anyone, least of all someone who mightn't even be interested

No one else can make this decision for you. It's a tough one to make. Either option will be tough. You may end up with regrets either way so the most important thing is that you "own" the choice and don't feel you were pressured into it.

I think in this situation if it were me I would abort, but that's not me advising you to do so.

Thanks everyone. Still coming to terms with it all... he went from being ecstatic about the baby to freaking out and attacking me. He's a coward so think he would probably never make contact but im not mean enough to deny him access. Lots of emotions at the moment but getting through it...

If you post on the relationships board you will be able to get some help on how contact might work in your situation, if that's something that's worrying you

I think you need to take some time here and let it all settle. If you're less than 4 weeks pregnant you were still sleeping with him less than 2 weeks ago and can only have told him about being pregnant in the last day or so?