Thinking of abortion advice please !

[Tia2005]

Hi I'm around 10 weeks . I've split from my partner for a lot of reasons we been together for about 2 years he's happy about the baby I was at first but I no I'm gonna be doing this on my own I have a nine year old and I work I just don't think I can do this again on my own

Have you spoken to your GP yet?

None of us can give advice (sadly - how nice life would be if other people could always make the right decision for you!) but we are here to talk to.

If you go and talk to your GP, or perhaps ring Marie Stopes or BPAS, then you should be able to access some professional counselling to help you make sure that you are making the right decision for you.

Do you have a gut feeling? Is it fear of being a single parent?

The only advice I can give is to take your time to make sure it is the right decision for you and your DC.

Hi thanks for the reply , it's the fact of if I have the baby it means 2kids 2 dads I wanted to meet someone who I could settle down with I no it sounds horrible but if I had a miscarage tomorrow I would feel ok I'm just so confused I don't think I could go through with abortion when I think about it

Tia many women have two dc to different fathers it might not be anyone's first choice but it isn't a reason to abort.
I strongly suggest counselling from an independent place not an abortion clinic. Do not rush into making any decisions.
Take care.

As you are already 10 weeks I would make an appointment pretty sharpish at least the first step is made should you wish to terminate. If you decide to go ahead you can always cancel.

Some counselling could help perhaps.

Tia, there is no right or wrong reason to have a termination, only what is right or wrong for you. Please do not listen to any judgement, on MN or in RL, about your reasons for considering a termination. And counselling from an abortion clinic will not just be biased counselling. They are there to support women, not to shoehorn anyone who asks into having an abortion.

Do you have anyone in RL you can talk to about this?

A PP is right that if you are considering a termination then it would be in your best interests to call the GP and start the ball rolling, but you can pull out and any point. And many women find that the reality of counselling or an appointment helps them to make their mind up.

Good luck

I've had 2 terminations.

Op the last one I had I had to travel over 100 miles to get an appointment that week. I had to go private as there was a two week wait to even see anyone on the NHS.

So my advice was not meant to be judging by any means.... just a help logistically as it's not always as straightforward as you would hope to get treatment.

As Thurlows pp I'd try and confide in a friend etc in RL for support and have some counselling to consider options.

I wish you luck.

Hi tia I have no advice I'm afraid I was just coming on to write my own post when I saw yours. I'm in a similar situation, I also think about miscarriage (which makes me feel horrible) but the thought of taking responsibility for deciding to abort is too scary, even though there are many many good reasons I just don't think I can. I'd quite like to bury my head in the sand and for it all to just go away but itself, but that's not an option either!