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Consumed with thoughts of TTC after termination

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FrostedMarshmallow · 17/02/2015 12:40

The reason we terminated last week was because we simply couldn't afford for me to give up work, and our 2 children are very young (one has special needs).

We agreed that perhaps in years to come we would TTC, even though prior to this we said we wouldn't have another, the whole experience has rocked both our feelings on the matter.
I was relieved when DH said it first, i thought I was the only one. We would prefer to wait until the children are both at school and we can review everything then.

Now it seems so far away. It feels like that time will be the only thing that particially heals my heart from all this pain. I know everything is still raw and my head says everything was the right thing.

I never ever ever thought I'd be saying any of this :( It feels wrong to feel this way. I simply want what I can't have.

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5hell · 17/02/2015 18:01

I dont have any great wisdom to offer I'm afraid, but I didn't want to read and run.

I'm sure you made a very careful and considered decision about your termination, but it is still sad and an emotional time and amplifies every feeling, so all you can really do is give yourselves time to recover. Only you can know when the time will be right for another child in your family, but its great that you and your DH are on the same page.

It seems (from many posts on here) that whether we are waiting to ttc, ttc, waiting for births, waiting for tests or worrying about staying pregnant, we are all destined to wait, wait, wait, worry and wait some more.

Go have a snuggle with your 2 DCs and try to relax and let the rawness pass. Brew

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