What to expect?

[jammygem]

Hi. I joined mumsnet when I was with my previous partner, and we were discussing the possibility of starting a family. I since have a new partner, although we have only been together a couple of months. I'm on Cerelle, and even though I haven't missed any pills, it seems to have failed. I felt a lot different, more emotional, sore breasts, much more tired in the past week or so, and haven't had any bleeding like I would normally expect, even being on Cerelle. I took a test on Tuesday and it was positive.

I've never been in this position before and am very nervous. I've booked a doctor's appointment for tomorrow so I can have another test to be sure, but I have no idea what to expect from the doctor or anything after. Neither my partner nor I are in a position to support a child right now, and I think a termination is the best course of action, if it's confirmed that I am pregnant. My usual GP has since moved to a different practice, and I've never met this doctor before - and for some reason that stresses me out even more.

I hadn't planned to tell DP until it was all confirmed, but he knew something was wrong and after a lot of coaxing, I told him. He's being very supportive but is working tomorrow and so can't come to the appointment with me.

What happens at the first appointment? What should I expect?

Really sorry but don't know what a GP appt is like- someone will be along to help, I am sure.
I went through Marie Stopes and the first appt was by telephone. They asked various health questions- eg previous pgs, smoking, medication etc.

I know it sounds stupid and like I've got my priorities all mixed up, but do I need to have a blood test? I'm incredibly needle-phobic and the thought of that panics me more than anything else, which is so messed up, I know.

My GP was extremely unhelpful (sorry) and when I explained why I was there he stared at me in silence for about ten seconds then said "right, well you need to ring my receptionist for a referral next week." It was just awful. Luckily, I got home and contacted BPAS who were extremely helpful and sorted me out for a medical procedure.

I didnt have a blood test, (I would have refused) but a I had a pinprick test in my finger which showed I have a negative blood type, so I did have to have this Anti D injection thing.

Deep breaths, you WILL be ok, but I would contact BPAS directly, not go to GP. Feel free to PM any questions xx

My gp was really helpful actually so were Marie Stopes. I did have to have a small pin prick on my finger too. I did have a telephone counselling thing before hand too but I think that's optional. Hope you're okay any questions you can pm me too x

Thanks for your responses. I've called Marie Stopes and have self-referred myself. I cancelled the GP appointment, I didn't realise I could do this without getting the GP involved. I have a telephone consultation with someone on Monday.

Thanks again.

Wishing you the best jammygem. Decisions are not easy, but you have to do what is best for you right now. And terminating now does not change your options in the future when things might be in a better place.

I also didn't have much help from the GP apart from a phone number for the wrong clinic. I finally got in touch with BPAS and their counselling was very helpful, very gentle, no judgement and lots of info. I actually go through the final stage of the medical termination today.