Help! Just found out I'm pregnant, have 10 month old. Reassurance needed!

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Well the title says it all really.

I have a 10 month old and I've just found out I'm pregnant again. It seems like only yesterday I was pregnant the first time! We both wanted another baby and didn't want to wait too long as we're both already knocking on a bit (me 38, him 44) so decided we'd just go for it and see what happens.

Well what happened is that we shagged ONCE (how stupid do I feel....... I KNOW it only takes once but didn't believe it really would) and within 2 weeks of deciding to go for it we are up le duff. It took us three years to have our wee boy, so thought it'd probs take a wee while again, hence the not wanting to wait.

So anyway, I had an extremely traumatic birth in which I nearly died and a baby who is not a lover of sleep (currently waking at 4.30 every morning ) and we are KNACKERED.

I am now actually shitting myself at being pregnant with such a small child to look after (I remember being just so so tired last time) and having a 19 month old and a new baby to look after.

We have no local support whatsoever, my ten month old is already a handful and I just don't know how we are going to manage.

My poor husband is in total shock. I keep telling him that other people manage with small age gaps (in fact I know someone who had a 10 month old when she gave birth to twins )but at the moment we are struggling to fight off impending doom.

So please, can anyone with small age gap tell us we will be ok and how great it is to have kids close together in age.

Lie if necessary.

Congratulations I am 6.5 weeks pregnant, with a 10 month old son who is also a handful, but great fun. We wanted an 18 month gap (we are both 40, and very age conscious!), so were thrilled when it did all work out timimgs-wise, but there are times when I begin to wonder if I am completely insane And we also have no local support, with both sets of parents some way away (although his parents possibly not far enough )

Really want to ensure that I enjoy DS's toddlerhood, without being distracted by the pregnancy (the last one had me hospitalised twice for hyperemesis), and already finding myself planning rooms, car seat positions, double-buggy avoidance, and some of the most random things....as well as panicing in case we do not manage to come up with as good a name this time 'round! Also disappointed that the local NCT don't offer a short 'refresher' course, as the pals I made at the last course were invaluable (I so looked forward to those Wed pub lunches and Fri get-togethers!).

Am already completely exhausted (and even fell downstairs today!), but also looking forward to the fact that I hope both DC will be good for each other. They'll only be one school year apart, and so should be quite happy to play together, etc. Plus the fact, I'll be able to get rid of all the nappies and other paraphenalia much sooner that with a bigger gap!

By all means, stay in touch if things all getting too much!!!! Not sure I'll be able to say anything wise, but at least I'll be able to empathise!