no hb at 9wks is there any chance?

[Poohbearsmom]

I had some spotting since the end of wk 6 went to EPU on sunday and doctor said its very common not to worry but to come for a scan during the wk.
I had scan yesterday i should be 9wks yesterday but the baby had no heartbeat.
Im devastated.
The doctor said she couldnt confirm a mmc because of being early on, i have to go back next wk to be re scanned but kept she saying "guarded" i dono guarded what as i was in shock but i know my dates are right and i know you can usually see hb around 6 wks so its not good.
My heart is broken. Is there any tiny point to me holding onto any shred of hope or is that it for sure?

Well there is always hope - I have seen people on here who have a tilted uterus so nothing could be seen til the 12 week scan.

But if I was you I would be expecting the worst tbh, as you say 9 weeks is quite a way on to not be seeing a hb. Sorry

Thank you both

i know in my heart of hearts that my little one is dead but he/she is still with me and i still feel pg and its so hard not to try to hope...
Its just a matter of waiting till next wed then they will give me my options i suppose
if it is the worst i will want a d & c and i really want us to bury it. Does anyone know if they usually give you that option? Im in ireland if that makes any difference. Iv kept scouring the net for information on mmc, on dates heart beat etc looking on so many threads here and on an irish site looking for hope and i also looked about d & c and i just feel sick thinking about it
i just want to curl up in a ball. Im very lucky i have two healthy little boys. I had an early mc before i had my boys but i didnt even know i was pg (i was on the pill) but this is so different and i just feel awful

thanks again ladies for listening to me. I dont hav any rl friends and hadnt told my sister who is my only family so its just me and dh so its great to have mn too. Xxx

Hi Poohbearsmom

So sorry you are going through this. I also had a mmc at 10 weeks last year, but mine was diagnosed as soon as I was scanned (no baby in the sac at all) so I didn't have to go through this terrible wait like you. It's awful to be kept waiting but they have to give the pregnancy the benefit of the doubt just in case.

Re: your last post, have you looked on the Miscarriage Association website? They are quite good. And if you feel like it you could also post in the Miscarriage section on here, you might find other mums who have had some kind of memorial or made special arrangements for the remains. I don't know exactly how to go about this but I know it's not routine/ won't be done automatically, so make sure you speak to your caregivers and make your wishes clear before the ERPC (D&C), if it does come to that. Hopefully someone else who has done this can advise.

Going through a mc does fee truly awful and it takes time to heal.

Another vote for the Miscarriage Association being helpful - I found their leaflets hugely informative.

It doesn't sound good TBH - unless your dates are off by 3 weeks, but then the baby would've been very small and the doctor would've mentioned this.

Thank you 2nddestiny im so sorry youv been here too, i think your right i just need some time. Right now i just feel raw
iv just randomly been breaking down all day
thank you for your kind words xxx

Thank you Japhrimel for the link i will look there now.
She did say the baby was very small but my dates cant be that much out as i got my bfp 5wks ago... Not good is it

Sorry, no. Give yourself time - if you want to curl up under the duvet with a big bar of chocolate and the Kleenex, do. Can someone help look after your children right now?

My dh has booked time off work next wk so that will help but i dont have anyone else
its ok il get through it im just really raw right now

Thank you for sharing your story with me Loopy im so sorry you lost your little angel too
my dh will bury the baby the same day, we bought some little white handkerchiefs this evening and we will get a little box and line it with them for our little one
im not sure but is a very small box about the size that could sit in your hand big enough? Im sorry if its too painful to remember and please just ignore me if its tmi.
I still cant believe where iv gone from since yesterday
thank you for your support xxx

Thank you so much Loopey your very kind im glad things have gotten easier for you and im sure i will feel better soon im just still in shock ya know but talking here and finding out as much as i can is helping me feel less lost and just a tiny bit more in control, altho i know im not...
Thank you for saying about your dc's iv got a dvd ready for after lunch and they'r watchin the flintstones as we speak im normally a bit of a telly rationer but yesterday and today i just need the electricial nanny's help abit... I will pop over to the miscarriage support group, thank you xxx