Hi Shouldbe - I had this too with DS, who is now 5 months. It was discovered at my booking in bloods at 20 weeks, probably arising from a blood transfusion 6 years ago.
I was stunned at the lack of knowledge that many medical professionals had. I was constantly giving conflicting information from midwifes.
Anti k can cause HDN, which can be nasty, so it should be taken seriously. The best advice I got was to get DH tested. It turned out that his blood phenotype put us at no risk whatsoever for HDN and the issue dissolved away into thin air the minute we got the result. However, I had a really stressy 5 weeks before this was all organised and results known. I seem to recall that you have a greater chance of falling into this group of unaffected pregnancies.
Where the paternal blood phenotype increases the risk of HDN, bloods to assess titre should be taken monthly , alongside ultrasound later in pregnancy. Amazingly, my friend was anti k too, years ago, and ended up having a number of intrauterine blood transfusions. Baby was absolutely fine and she was very closely monitored.
It can be scary, but as long as you get someone knowledgeable to manage it, you will feel a lot more in control. And make sure everyone is aware of your status when you approach labour - they always need to be able to access appropriate blood for you, just in case you need a transfusion.
I recall the panic only too well, but all was fine with me. I'm sure it will be for you too.