At the end of my tether with DS1

[YummyMummy1208]

I am so annoyed rite now i really need to vent before i throw him out of the window.

i am 24 weeks pregnant, and have spent the last 2 hours running up and down the bloody stairs trying to get DS1 to bed.
what is wrong with this child? He will be up at 6am tomorrow still even tho he isnt gonna be asleep much before 10pm.
I have spent all week looking forward to having a nice relaxing nite to myself tonite as OH is out until 10ish but looks like thats out the window as its 9:15 and hes still a-friggin-wake!
I have tried to keep mobile for as long as possible doing the washing and tidying up as i dont want to sit down knowing i have to keep getting up once hes out of his room but my back is killing and i just want to enjoy some of my nite before a drunken OH comes home amazingly wondering y im in such a shit mood - the drunkness will totally erase the knowledge of our insomniac child and that i could have had an awful nite with him (which i have) and he will expect me to be chirping away walking about shite.
Please moan with me and make me feel better...

No toddlers I know are sleeping right now. My very own 13 hour per night sleeping toddler has disappeared this summer. Only sleeping between 10 - 5 now. It's absolutely mad. I'm soooo tired.

I will join a slightly different moan.. it's my DH. He is soooooo lazy. I admit I willingly married him knowing he's lazy but not being pregnant, I did not see any problems at the time. Now pregnant with 1 DC, it's moan time.

Most the time I have to look after DS, do all the chores, work full time plus do any other misc. stuff, all the time feeling very sick and tired. Either that or I ask him to do something so many times that I get high blood pressure, whilst watching him just lazing round. Looking after DS to him means putting the TV on, and then ignoring DS so much that he ends up coming to me anyway to be looked after. DH would eventually do some of the chores but after I've completely lost my temper and shouted at him. I'm very tired, sick and particular at the moment and it's just driving me crazy.

Oh dear - has he gone off to sleep yet?

I think it's this hot/humid weather - my daughter was up way longer than she should have been the past few nights. Tonight she was running round the garden in her vest after her milk and bath!!

I've given up and let her play until she's tired. Even then she screamed blue murder when we finally got her into the cot - but at least she can't get back out so we left her and she's asleep now.

Hope you managed at least some you-time

How old is he? My ds just turned 2 and is becomign a nightmare sleeper. With dd, I could put her to bed, she would look at her books then go to sleep. Different story with ds. I have spent the last 3 bloody hours putting him back to bed, not helped by the fact that he was so tired today he was grumpy literally all day It's exhausting me and I have no idea what to do either. I can put him back in bed all I want, tell him to stay there, take his books away, nothing works. Oh, and my houdini can climb over his stairgate too God help me.

I like this moan aswell, i mean he has got slightly better since iv started moaning and using the pregnancy card a lot more.

But y should us women have to deal with all the 'adult' things in the family? Ever since having DS1 with my OH i have become so angry with men and how they act like teenagers...the bit about ur OH putting the tv on and ignoring ur little one - thats exactly the same as my OH, well he sort of listens and says the occasional 'yea, i know...' or something similar back to him but he ends up falling or hurting himself because he isnt being watched and then my few minute block for a shower or what not is over premeturely!

how can they get away with acting like this? i honestly think OH is harder work than my DS. and the worst thing annoying me rite now, im getting annoyed just thinking of it, is how wenever i have to moan because i asked him to do something but he hasnt done it so i have to ask again he does the roll the eyes here she goes again look. OMG that annoys me! Do men think we women just like moaning??? i really have enough moanin to do looking after a 2 year old withut moaning at a grown man...and y are we moaning? becos they wont bloody get off their arses and clean up after themselves!

Is it the hormones coming out or do i have a point here?

Well DS is finally asleep, think he realised he had pushed the last button and was gonna get it next time he came out.lol.
I love him but jees. its nearly my bedtime now and i havent had chance to unwind!

How far along r u? U finding it a struggle to manage work, DC and pregnancy? Im just so tired all the time.

Why do they get away with acting like that? Presumably because you put up with it. If it bothers you, then have a proper talk about it, the longer you let the resentment fester the worse it will become unfortunately.

oh god he can climb over the stairgate? how do uu deal with that one?! Im thinking of getting OH to put the stairgate outside his room, that way i can just leave him playing in his room until he gives in. He just starts throwing things (including his nite time nappy tonite!) down the stairs if i ignore him. He threw his nappy down and was sat on the potty wen i last walked up there.lol. cute but not cute after 2 hours of it!

If i couldlast past 10:30pm with out fallin to sleep i would consider letting him go to bed later but i just need a few hours to unwind before i go to sleep and then have to be wide awake and happy at 6am!

I just pray for a lie in in the morning!

My 5 year old DTD's are exactly the same, I am 16 weeks. They are always finding an excuse to come out of their room for something, I feel poorly, I'm thirsty, I'm not sleepy. We have decided that on Saturday nights they will be permitted to watch 1 dvd on the laptop and then sleep, well of course they didn't just want one!! Fast asleep now, but aaaargh!! I think the warm weather and light evenings do not help, you are not alone!!

I dont put up with it tho thats the thing - i just have to keep moaning and moanin and moanin and then i get the rolled eyes here she goes again thing!

He is home, stumbling all over the place and minus my burger i asked for. and now im getting a drunken relationship speach...

Hi YummyMummy, I'm only just 9 weeks but feeling like I've been pregnant 9 months. I think one of the reason is a very unsympathetic horrible DH and active DC. This time round, he's expecting me to keep doing everything whereas last time he was a tad bit more helpful. Last week I complained about a dish in the kitchen that was making me feel sick so I asked if he could please put it in the bin, DH told me to stop breathing it in as he walked off, not even thinking he's offended me. I was too weak to argue. Other times he's losing his temper at me and DS because he wants to relax rather than be doing my chores, that's after he has been relaxing a fair bit. Talking doesn't work, tried that loads of times but he just gets annoyed and says he's more tired/sick than me everyday(the cheek...!).

Life isn't easy at the moment. I do know other couples who really struggled with 2nd/3rd pregnancy having to cope with other young children. Once baby arrived, they are all happy and normal again. Still... gritting teeth.

Good news is, I wasn't throwing up tonight so managed to put DS to bed and he immediately slept. (suspecting now if DH has been doing his bedtime routine properly) Hopefully you're having better luck tonight too.

Oh thats not nice, i would kick his ass into gear if i were u...women need sympathy whilst were making babies for men! luckily my OH seems to be ok at giving me sympathy - i have to ask for it but at least i get it. I do tent to milk things and make sure he knows im in pain if ever i am! Altho this time around its just that much harder having to content with a little one who doesnt know ur weaker/more tired/fragile than usual and so cant really work around u!

I think women r amazing tho, the men just tend to sit around acting like big teenagers their whole life whilst we do all the work.

It will get easier in a few weeks for u, the 2nd trimester i found to be much easier and felt nearly back to normal for a good month in there! im almost winking at thr 3rd trimester now and its starting to show, im so hormonal and patience levels are almost zero..along with the tiredness and aching thru the baby weight. just walking thru a shopping centre today i found myself totally out of breath almost feeling exhausted which is really strange to me - im used to flyhing around everywhere at top speed an dont want to slow down!

But on a better note, apart from a huge feeling of guilt for shouting at DS1 at the shops today for doing nothing much than being a typical 2 year old handful and running around the place im having a better nite as he went near enough straight to sleep - i camped outside his room with my Pregnancy & Birth mag whilst holding the door shut wenever he tried to escape and it worked within 10 minutes so im a tad less stressed tonite!

Mite go and finish off that magazine in bed!

Howz the first trimester going tho? was it a planned pregnancy - do many people know yet in ur family? i love that part, the teling everyone game. we tried to think of so many cool ways to let people know - bought our DS a t-shirt saying 'im going to be a big brother' to tell our mujms which was cute.

YummyMummy, what a great idea with the t-shirt! Shame now as we've already told most our close family - or rather excited grandparents have told everyone else despite being informed in secret.

Hopefully your DS is not giving you as much grief now with bedtime. I've noticed that mine goes to sleep instantly if I put him to bed myself so I try to do it whenever I'm not too sick or tired, which is rare unfortunately.

I had surge of energy only in my 3rd trimester last time due to hyperemesis, hopefully this time it comes a lot sooner this time crossing fingers very hard as I'm now looking forward to 2nd trimester after reading your post.