Find out the sex or not?!?

[AdamsMammy]

Hi - just for fun really - wanted to know if you found out the sex of your baby before it was born or not. Or if you're planning to find out before the birth? Interested to see where the mums netters stand on this one.

This time we found out. I wanted to be fairly organised, and if it was a girl, to sort through old clothes etc. This one is a boy too, so can relax a bit with the clearing!

Also, my Ds (5) was telling everyone beforehand that he was having a brother - so wanted to try and prepare him too if it was a girl.

It's a nice suprise half way through the pregnancy - although, now everyone asks about names for him!

I found out and don't regret it (still pregnant though). Initially I went through gender disappointment stage, as this is a second boy, and I was convinced I was having a girl. It took me a couple of weeks to adjust my mind. Now I am much happier, and I can speak with DS more clearly when speaking about his little brother.

We found out. I had a particular preference and wanted time to get used to the idea if it was the other sex (which it was!)

It's still a surprise at whatever time you find out.

We're not finding out. I think it should be a surprise, plus I don't want people to buy us pink/blue things as want to avoid that kind of gender stereotyping thing if possible.

Didn't with the first two - I wanted that moment of revelation/surprise after all the hard work and they were intensely fond memories. Dh lent forward and said about dc2 "Oh, it's another boy!" only for the snr mw to say "You need to look again, that's the cord!"

With no 3 we have found out - for practical reasons such as bedroom sharing, getting rid of clothes to make room, to choose the right name (think pg hormones influenced choice for dd!) - but also because strangely for no 3 I had a gender preference (weirdly since have a ds and dd) and wanted to be prepared either way.

I told my OH it's his decision whether we find out or not, because obviously he's not involved with the cooking of the baby (conception yes, but the sickness, sleeplessness, etc, most definitely not!) I though it would be nice to give him that responsibility. He wants to find out but we're still a way away from our 20 week scan so he may change his mind still Personally I would wait until he/she is born but I must admit it will be nice to know if OH sticks to wanting to find out

I'm having a little boy. After looking for lots of baby clothes in shops, and there are 3 items that are unisex, and everything else was girls or boys, I thought, yeah, let's find out so I can buy some colour as well.

The fact I am unbelievably impatient and there was no way I could wait nine months helped in the decision also hehe.

Didn't find out the sex for DS1 and now am 39 +1 with baby 2 and chose not to find out. My DP was adamant that we not find out, and actually it's kind of nice not knowing...and quite a novelty these days. How often in life do we have such a big surprise?

thisisyesterday yes true, perhaps. I think I'd get over it quite quickly though if she turned out a little boy. Not sure what I'd do with the pink dresses though! And realistically, that is quite an unusual scenario althought I know it happens once in a while.

I nearly did not find out, and decided on the day, but in my case it has made quite a big difference to how I feel about my pregnancy. Maybe a mixture of being overly anxious and not ever so maternal, I was feeling a little 'disconnected' before and was worrying about bonding, but all of that has changed. It was a good decision for me, I'll post after the birth if she's a boy though!

Hi everyone - thanks for all your responses. It was great to read everyone's opinions on the topic! We didn't find out until our beautiful baby boy was delivered into the world. We had really strong opinions on the matter but having read the comments above I can understand why some people would rather find out before the birth. I wouldn't change our decision tho and won't be finding out in the future either. x