pressure to loose weight or just being hormonal??

[Feliena]

im 26+4 and was out shopping the other day in the sales - saw loads of lush clothes at 70% off but wouldnt fit cus of bump. told my hubby and then he came home few days later with a huge bag from my favourite shop and announced hed purchased my xmas prezzies. i then casually asked what size he bought n he was like 14s your usual size - and i was like ill never be a 14 again by xmas (due 27th sept and currently in size 20-22) and he was like you will be i no you would never let yourself go and would get depressed if u stayed big. now i feel a tremendous pressure and am parranoyed about being bigger and getting a bit down about my size- he still shows me the same affection and ive spoke to him and he says my bump is bueatiful and i look as sexy as ever (bless thats blatiently a lie) but i get the impression he wouldnt b too happy if i didnt go back to my usual size.

i cant decide if hes just being nice or pressurising - and im getting really depressed at times over my current size - what does anyone else think??

It doesn't sound like he's being mean, from what you say about him saying you are beautiful etc. Sounds like he is trying to be supportive and encouraging, although obviously you know him best!

FWIW he may be being a little optimistic though. I was definitely still 1-2 sizes bigger than "normal" 3 months after giving birth last time.

Sounds like you need to have a chat with him about how you feel, and how you think he can best support and encourage you to feel good about yourself before and after the birth.

I think he is trying to be kind to you but in typical male fashion just keeps on putting his foot in his mouth! I agree with jacksmybaby, you need to have a chat with him and tell him how you feel, tell him that you feel bad enough as it is without him putting the added pressure on you of getting back to a 14 by Christmas! After the birth you will lose the extra weight when you are good and ready to do so.

I am also due on the 27th September and I just feel so gross at the minute and look like a mini elephant, my Mum is a big lady and so is my sister, I constantly watch my weight and am always having to diet to stay slim when I am not pregnant - because my Mum is big she doesn't want me to get big so has bought me a size 10 dress to wear on Christmas day, so, I completely understand the pressure you are under but losing weight should be the last thing on your mind right now, I know it is on mine, i'm just eating healthy so that my baby is healthy, sod how big I get!!!

Ah he sounds like a darling, I bet he's just being tactless in that way only men can be.

Talk to him, feel reassured, then take it all back and swap it for vouchers.

Happy pregnancy (I'm due at the same time, I wasn't even a size 14 before the pregnancy so no hope for me!)

This isn't a criticism of you at all, but I do think that men have a very tricky task in this situation as whatever they say is always bound to come out sounding wrong/offensive / make their DW feel paranoid etc!

Would you have felt better or worse if he had come home with sie 16 or 18? I think talk to him, about how lovely it was, but that christmas might be too soon for you to fit into them.

Are you in maternity clothes? If you were a 14 beforehand, I'd be surprised if you needed size 20 maternity clothes!

I was a 16 pre-pregnancy but am now more a 14 or 14/16 in pregnancy clothes as I lost weight everywhere but my bump & boobs in the 1st trimester. If I bought non-maternity clothes, god knows what size I'd be but I know I'd find it depressing.

the size 22 wasnt maternity - im bout a 16/18 in maternity cus have now got h cup boobs!!!

thanks everyone uve really made me feel a lot better with myself - i think occasionally the hormoanes get the better of me- weve chartted now i really love the clothes and we have decided that if they dont fit by xmas ill have them for my birthday which is july - i think thats alot more realistic however there still there dangling in the back of my thoughts as a small incentive!!!

The boobs might go down, but even if they don't, I wouldn't stress about them making you a bigger size. Maybe get your OH to shop in Bravissimo so the clothes are cut for bigger boobs, rather than just getting bigger all over?

Sounds like you might still be a 14 maternity if it wasn't for the boobs. So you haven't really put on much that isn't needed for pregnancy!