I know Im silly but.....

[asteri]

I am almost ten weeks pregnant and as well as all the "normal" fears of will i be a good mum, am I really ready for this, etc, I am also a little scared of feeling a bit aliebated by my friends when my baby comes along, as I don't really know anyone else my age with children, other than my sister in law (who lives 130 miles away), and a neighbour I used to be quite good friends with but we fell out and dont really speak to each other.

Not silly at all. I bet your friends will be excited about it, although perhaps won't quite understand...

Have you had a look at your mumsnet local? Could go to meetups etc to meet people. Also, are you going to NCT classes? They are a good place to meet people.

Another one that can be good is if you have a surestart centre near you? They normally do post-natal groups, which is around 10 of you who've babies of same age, which is great place to meet people i've heard, they normally also do classes like breastfeeding, baby massage, baby signing etc.

Even if there's none of those near you, i bet they'll be a local mother and baby group at a church hall or something near you.

Agree, not silly.

Also agree that you will meet lots of new friends if you go to NCT or other pre- or post-natal groups/courses etc. Good suggestions by Pootles. Some of my best friends now are ladies I met through our local NCT "bumps and bundles" group (weekly meet-up for pregnant women and women with young babies up to crawling age).

Re alienation from existing friends, I did feel this for a while after having DS, not because they stopped being friendly/inviting me to things etc but because I felt they had no clue about what my life was now all about. However this feeling passed as I got used to my new life and so did they, also they started having babies themselves after not too long.

It's hard being the first in your group of friends to have a baby but someone has to be the first!

Good luck, I am sure you will be just fine.

Hi asteri,
I don't know any other mothers in my area either and have been counting on meeting people at NCT or baby classes. Sure you will meet others in the same boat nearer the end of your preg x

If I had my time again pre-DS then I would have definitely gone to an NCT class - even if you don't want to do absolutely everything the way they encourage you to re birth and breastfeeding, I have heard from so many people now that they have made really good friends who meet every week and thats got to be good.