can you tell? girl or boy?

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I am 39 weeks now, and don't know what I am having?
But starting to get obsessed about guessing what I am having ( change my mind about 5 times a day)
To all you experienced mums, has anyone had symptoms that were different for a boy/girl.
Or d'ya reckon that you have different symptoms and carry different for each pregnancy?
My feeling is a girl at the moment, as I am really emotional this time. And really uncomfortable. Felt different with my boy!?

I was convinced my first was a boy, turned out to be a girl. Then pretty sure my second was a boy, based on the fact others we knew pregnant at the same time were having girls, and it was. My pregnancies both times were pretty much the same. My friends mum had five girls and all her pregnancies were different. There's just no way of knowing until your baby makes an appearance

With my DD I craved sweet things, with this PG it's salty. I carried low with DD, hair fell out, skin went all greasy, with this bub I'm carrying high, hair like a shampoo ad, skin clearest it's ever been. I know it's never as straight-forward as that, I don't believe in old wive's tales and all pregnancies are different, but it just so happens I AM having a boy!

None of this how you carry, how you feel, what you crave, what your hair does has any basis in anything. It's woo bollocks really. But there is some little theory that the only slightly better than chance way of guessing is to ask the woman carrying the child. Not based on her symptoms but on instinct. There's a slightly higher rate of guessing right than chance should allow for apparently.

And it's easy to say 'ha I was right' I suppose, there's only ever going to be 2 outcomes in the majority of cases. 50/50 odds are very good indeed.

FWIW, I dreamt I was having a girl from the moment I knew I was pg. Never dreamt it was a boy, never felt that it was a boy and it was a girl. But I still say it's just guesswork.

I know it doesn't have any basis, it just so happened in my last two pregnancies all my symptoms were exactly opposite, just one of those weird little things!

For my first 5 I knew what I was having (call it instinct), all had names before my 20 week scan when we could check if it was boy/girl.

But on my 6th I thought I was having a boy, only had a boys name didnt like girls names at all, thankfully i didnt go and buy any clothes as 'he' was a she not that I cared either way.

Ahickey, my reply wasn't to you, was a reply in general.

The thing is with 50/50 odds you're as likely to get it right as wrong so you could be pg 10 times and guess right every time. It would look amazing on the face of it but is as likely as guessing all wrong or 5 right and 5 wrong.

I was convinced I was having a girl with first, so didn't bother looking at girls names, clothes etc.
Was totaly shocked when a boy came out!
I am thinking a girl again this time, even dreamt last night it was a girl!
So we shall see if my instincts are crap again
everyone said i was having a boy last time, due to how i was carrying.
The say the same again this time, as at front and low.
But my boyf says agirl because i am so bad tempeed this time!

All my three pgs were completely and utterly different - symptoms, bump-size, birth. As it happened I had 1 boy 2 girls.

The only one I was certain about was dd2 - I knew the date of conception and it was literally 2 days after my period, so it would have had to be a seriously long-living sperm that did the job - i.e. female (male ones swim faster, but die sooner).

So for those of you who were convinced the baby was one sex, but it was the other - were you disappointed?

I've found out that 80% I'm having a DS. I was SOOOOO sure it was a DD.

I'm slightly disappointed. I am also afraid for some reason - probably the unknown...

It's normal to feel disappointed. Please don't feel guilty. It's disappointment about what you aren't having as opposed to what you are. For example, (and there's no real example that does justice to having a baby) imagine your dp/h was taking you away for a surprise weekend and you suspected it was Paris. You imagine it, look forward to it, plan it etc but when the time comes you end up in Venice. You're a bit disappointed because you'd envisaged a different city with a different name and you felt familiar with it but really Venice is just as lovely as Paris, just looks a bit different.

You know only one thing about your child and that's its requisite bits. But you don't know its personality, likes, dislikes, his beautiful eyes, how much you'll love him. You'll love him because he's yours and unique and special. You will realise that gender is utterly irrelevant to that.

Congratulations on your boy.

Do you know baby's heart rate? Around 160-170 bpm is a girl and around 130-140 bpm is a boy.

But that's another old wives' tale. DD's heartrate was consistently around 135-137.

How can it be an "old wives tale" when the technology for fetal heartbeat detection was has not been around at their time?

More seriously, it worked for my two children and many others that I know of. It is the single most consistent fetal gender indicator I have come across.

i have heard the heartbeat thing as well and my midwife said she could tell the sex of the baby from the heartbeat, she was right with my last two!

i have four boys and am 18wks preg with no 5, ihave no idea what this one is,, but the heartbeat is faster this time at 160 instead of 140.

all my pregnancies so far have been very easy, this one i have felt sicker, supposedly another sign its a girl

we arent finding out so another 22wks to wait, what i will say is i am struggling to find unisex baby clothes, got one little nightie/gown thing today from pumpkin patch in the sale but everything seems to be pink or blue, hugely annoying.

Yes but as I said earlier, it's as likely to be right as wrong as it's 50/50. And my dd should have been a ds according to the fetal heartrate. My brother's dds also had slower heartbeats and a colleagues' baby had a faster heartrate and it was a boy. Anecdotally, lots of things seem to work, but the exceptions disprove the rule. And men in white coats have tested it and found it to be rubbish!

Thanks ShowofHands - that was a very nice message you posted to me and I appreciated it. .

x

I agree - lovely way of putting it ShowofHands or

We'll see about that SIL is preggie and fetal heart rate is about 170. I'm betting a girl, obviously.

showofhands, you've just broght a tear to my eye with your post earlier! (doesn't take much these days though)
newdawn, even though I was convinced I was having a girl, I was over the moon when I found out he was a boy.
He has been a little star, and I couldn't have loved him or bonded with him anymore.
I am worried that I will not love the next one as much - Don't think I could love anything as much.
But when they are in your arms, it is such a powerfull emotion, you won't care what sex.
Still fun to guess though, and seeing who was right! (even if you change your mind everyday)