Just found out the sex - mixed feelings

[BuckBuckMcFate]

I'm 20 weeks with DC4. We have 2DS's and a DD.

We went for a scan this morning and found out that we're have a boy

I'm mostly just relieved that everything looked ok as we lost a baby last year so I'm feeling lucky that we are having this one.

But I'm a little sad that it's not a girl too. Not in a 'I don't want a boy' way just that having DD has been so different than having the DS's and I really wanted her to have a sister.

I'm being daft aren't I?

Yes.

Hope the rest of your pregnancy goes well.

Your dd won't miss what she hasn't had.

My dd asked for a sister the other week but she is about 3 years too late. She was fine with it. She has to be tbh.

So was I.
I wanted a girl but my baby is a boy.
But as soon as I knew that, I felt so sorry for my little boy.
Your little boy can be a good firend to you DS as like a sister

Yes, but I understand you. I had a DS and was quietly hoping that no.2 would be a girl. I'm glad I found out that he was another boy, as it gave me 20 weeks to get used to it. Once DS2 arrived, any desire for him to have been a her, completely vanished. He is perfect.

As you say though, the crucial thing is that he is healthy. And your DD will be spoiled rotten by all her brothers.

Thank you Fab, needed some straight talking.

I'm a bit sad too because this HAS to be our last baby so I think if it had been a girl I would've been feeling sad that I wouldn't ever have another son! ( I love hormones! )

I had a boy, late mc (girl) then another boy, glad I have two boys but jealous of people with one of each! Don't feel bad its just mixed feelings because its your last baby.

Thank you Soapsy and Mymin.

I agree it's good to have 20 weeks to get used to the idea.

I know about 7 other pregnant women at the moment and they're all having boys so I think I'd convinced myself that surely this must statistically be a girl!

Congratulations. It's normal and it will pass.

My DH has two brothers and a sister. She was very well looked after and adored by her brothers. Still is. It's a lovely group of siblings ime.

I have 3 boys.

Would have loved a dd- but its not a huge range its only one or t'other .

Hoping you enjoy the rest of your pregnancy and that your baby boy has the longest eyelashes .

I love baby boys eyes,in fact I love babies.

I get where you are coming from. Also pg with baby no.4 after2 boys and a girl. And my girl is desperate for a sister. Also def going to be last baby. I love little boys so I will be happy if it is, but sad at the same time as I will never know another little girl of my own IYKWIM.

It is good you have time to get used to it. All I can say is people I know with more than one girl, say how diffrent they are, any baby is unique and different anyway, that is what we cherish not whether they are boy/girl.

You are not being daft at all I understand exactly where you are coming from!

I have a DD then 2 DSs. Not sure if we'll have a 4th DC, but I am sad for DD that she doesn't have a sister, even her cousins all boys. But thats not a reason to have a 4th DC as it might be a boy!

I grew up in a family of girls and am close to both sisters so finding it quite strange to have so many little boys around. DD is the oldest so she thinks of herself as the little mummy to the little brothers and cousins.

YANBU. I think we all have a little daydream of what we think will be the ideal, or we just have a feeling of what we're carrying and are thrown if it's the opposite.

I would have sworn DD was a boy, I had to be stopped from decorating the nursery in blue I was that sure! When she arrived I was momentarily shocked, but not disapointed. I have a hypothetical preference at the moment for DC2 but haven't found out this time as I know once the baby is here, we'll love him or her just as they are.

Just think your DD will always have you to do the girly things with

nickschick - that made me smile as I said to DH it is going to be a girl or a boy when I was pregnant with dc1 as if there was a third option!

Thanks everyone

I am happy that it's a boy, I was worried I'd get 'you are being ungrateful' replies so feeling much better to know that other's have felt the same way too.

I'm looking forward to school pickup today, all of them have been dying to find out what it will be and they had all picked a baby brother in the sweepstake before school so I'll have 3 happy children.

Its a funny one isn't it, relieved everything is ok but if you've sort of hoped for one or other, its not so much sadness, just a bit of an 'oh' moment iyswim! We found out we're having a little boy, i had imagined a little girl but now (at 36 weeks) can't imagine anything but a boy and not even met him yet!

It'll be lovely for your little girl to have her brothers to look after her. And plus no sisters to fight with/steal clothes/make up!

I agree with Pootles. Took me a few days to get used to the idea of having a boy but now I too couldnt imagine anything but a boy and I'm so looking forward to being a mummy to a boy!
I would of loved lots of brother's to look after me. I am still looking out for my little brother who is nearly 20!

I had a 3D scan at 26 weeks, found out we were having another boy. Felt like you, a little sad, but soon got used to the idea that we were going to be blessed with two boys....

Imagine my surprise when DS2 turned out to be a DD! We were hugging 'Harry' for a few minutes or so before DH said to the student midwife 'it is a boy, isn't it'.... she had a quick look and screamed!

I do feel lucky to have DD and I adore her. But it did take a while for me to get my head round and I did feel sad about not having a boy. I had to pack away all the boy things and had a little tear as I'd bonded with the boy I thought I was having.

We were the only 3D scan mistake in our hospital! Needless to say we got a refund for our scan.