I want to tell

[Rinnyx]

I am 19 weeks with #2 and due for my 2nd scan next friday.

Close friends of DP and mine already know, so does my mum, stepdad and step nan and all his family (all apart from his parents and 1 sister live in Hong Kong) and I am set to see more close friends the day after the scan so they will see.

The thing is I have said nothing on facebook as I dont really want my side of the family knowing (DP, my parents and close friends know this) as they are very jealous and competitive people, if someone is pg one of them has to go and get pg also so you cant lets say have the limelight to yourself, its been like since my nans generation in the family!

But I am getting to the point were if the scan goes well and we see the sex I would just love to tell everyone (minus family).
Should I just try to hold out til baby is born like planned or somehow block any family members on my friends list seeing my wall/status posts (this can be done)

I am at such a loss and I know hormones are not helping

Gosh you have kept it quiet for a long time. (ime most people start telling people after the 12 week scan)

Surely if you wait much longer, people who don't know "officially" may see you in person and notice you have a bump and the news will spread that way?

Your family sound very difficult if you don't mind me saying.

Yeah we told our parents and his sisters soon as we had the 1st scan and were told everything was ok as we lost 2 last year and told friends afew weeks ago as we dont see them as much these days (work and just busy)

My family are quite a nasty bunch but thankfully DP family are wonderful.
If it wasnt for my family I think I would of already shared the news on FB but I have quite afew of them on it as they are all over the UK, USA and Australia and even if I dont see them in person they can still be just as mean online and the ones near my mum I know would take it out on her

Also my step brother is very immature even tho his about 3-4 years older than me and if he found out before baby is here (I plan to say on FB once its here thats for sure) he would go running to his sister whos older again and winge to her about it and she is a nasty bit of work.
When I was pg with DD 8 years ago she got hold of me when no one was round and told me how stupid I was and I should get rid only for her who said she hated kids and would never have any went and got pg afew months before I had DD

Over all very messed up family on my side

Sounds like a horrible lot of people. Shame you can't choose your faily. What I don't get is why FB is so important? Surely all that matters is that the people who genuinely care for you know what's happening? Stuff FB there are more important things to think about.

I guess its cause I'm the kind of person who does not like to hide things tho dont get me wrong its not like 'hey look at me, showing off' I tend to be quite open and it would be nice to share with friends I do not get to see as often and even the odd family member I do get on with like a aunt in australia who's only way to keep in contact with me is via FB.

But like you said its a shame you cant pick your family, thank god DP's are so loving and fab tho

If it's any help, you can choose on facebook to limit the information seen on the daily newsfeed for whoever you choose. If you go to the person's name and hover just to the right of it a button will come up on the screen saying "Hide" - if you select that then you will no longer see their status updates and they won't see yours (as far as I gather). The only thing is that if they actively do a search on your name they can still see your status updates on your profile wall so it depends whether you think they are likely to do that or not.

You could just tell all your close friends in person/phone/email if you prefer to avoid that risk

On the subject of putting scan pictures on Facebook - It's up to you what you do but from my own experience I would say please don't post scan pics on facebook. I have lost 4 babies for various reasons and almost every scan I have had has been a fairly devastating experience. I now can't even watch a scan on a fictional tv show. When people's scan photos pop up on my news feed it makes me feel utterly miserable and brings back some very traumatic memories. A lot of people don't tell others of their losses so you never know who out of your friends will be upset by scan pictures if they pop up.

Thanks for all your replies ladies
I am feeling better today, I'm guessing my hormones were not helping me any last night.
I'm feeling less 'I want to shout it out to everyone' this morning, and I guess if I have already gone almost half way without tell people apart from parents, DP family and close friends I can try my best to wait till baby is here and then say and share pics on FB and my family will have to suck it up I got to be pg on my own tho they can sod off if they think they will invade my house and life again while baby is at the 'cute' stage then drop me again, like they did when DD was born.
They wouldnt leave me alone soon as she was born til about 1yr then didnt see much of them, havent seen any of them for afew years now really

why don't you just drop them from facebook all together? Life's too short to be having to worry about what you can say in case some people you don't even like see it!