What would you do?

[loveablebunny]

I am only 6 weeks pregnant and work in a small compnay. There are only 9 of us and we are supposedly a happy fanmily!

I am also diabetic. This makes things complicated, i now have to very strictly control my blood sugars. The only problem is that as they are kept low there is not as far to fall before you have a hypo (atack from levels that are too low).

I have also just discovered that i need to attend regular, sometimes weekly, diabetic antenatal clinics, and so am going to need some time off and/or work from home 1 day a week until things settle down.

This shouldn't be a problem apart from i am rubbish at telling porkies, so not sure what to say as why i need to do this! Luckily after this week i am off for 2, so just this week to blag for now!

I would confide in one of the two directors, only the last person who did this found that everybody knew that same day. Everyone knows everyone elses business in our place!

I had planned to tell everyone at 12 weeks, especially as those responsible for telling everyone, and the worst gossips, are away that week. Kind of one back for the girl whose news they spoilt. Plus they hate being the last to know whats going on. Spiteful maybe, but its my news, and i want to be the one who tells everyone!

I have an opportunity to tell everyone tomorrow, as they are all in the office which is rare, or we have a team training day this week. I would obviously have to tell the bosses first, but then the time frame is short before it gets blabbed.

If anything went wrong then everyone would know anyway, but it still feels too early, i'm still getting used to the idea myself!

So what would you do? Its kind of all or nothing, i wouldn't trust anybody to keep it shut! Do they need to know from a h&s point of view incase i have a hypo?

thanks in advance for any advice!

I would wait until after you have had your two weeks off and see how you feel then about telling them.

I didn't want to tell anyone, but then I had a scare and had to tell key people at work, they've been brilliant. Not lying is a relief too and it's nice to have some understanding when you are feeling rough.

Love LOS x

I would tell no one until I really wanted too and use dentist/plumber excuses for now.

They don't need to know from a H&S point of view, although I can understand why you might want to tell someone. Your warnings might be off so be religious about checking your blood sugars, particularly before driving.

I would wait (if this was me) until after your holiday at least and then see what I thought about telling. Until I did want to say, it might be worth having a long-running plumber problem that is going to need a few visits (he needs another part etc) so you might as well work from home.

I would tell everyone, tbh. But I have always told everyone from early on; I'm not afraid of m/c.

Are the workmates such bitches that they wouldn't be sensitive if you miscarried? Because otherwise their support and understanding could be invaluable -- however easy or not the pregnancy proves to be for you.

I would say a half truth, your doctor is worried about your diabetes at the moment and you are having to do some extra tests. I assume work already know about your diabetes so you are not really lying just not telling the whole truth

Also agree that if you are going to tell them early, wait until after your holiday when you'd had time to think it through.

Congratulations on your pregnancy

I would say a half truth, your doctor is worried about your diabetes at the moment and you are having to do some extra tests. I assume work already know about your diabetes so you are not really lying just not telling the whole truth

Also agree that if you are going to tell them early, wait until after your holiday when you'd had time to think it through.

Congratulations on your pregnancy

I agree with Lavitalbella a half truth is less stressful than lying and really disclosing a part of the truth. It is up to you when you tell them don't let a office gossip atmosphere pressure you into telling people too early.
Although if it is that close it may be nice to have their support providing they are not the bitchy types.
Congratulations on your pregnancy I hope everything goes well

I would just come clean and tell those who need to know.

Thanks for the advice. Decided to come clean and announce to all and they have been mostly great as I had expected, all now have copies of guide to managing hypos just in case, and they won't let me be in the office on my own.

Sure they will be supportive if anything goes wrong too. It's not so much bitchiness, just a heavy amount of gossip!

I would just tell your boss/ supervisor and explain why you need the time off but make it clear you absolutely do not want anyone else in the office informing of your news until you announce it yourself once you are 12 weeks. I am sure most people understand this, esp. if they have has kids themselves.