Hi can anyone offer me some pearls of wisdom I had my dating scan just over a week ago i was 12+3. The sonographer looked at me and said "it looks a bit thick" talking about the babies neck he then gave me a measurement of 4.6mm. Me and my boyfriend was then told to wait in a room for over an hour because the midwife had to come and speak to us when she did she said "am really sorry to be meeting you under these circumstances" trying to make out this was the worst news ever she then said I had a one in 14 chance of baby having downs or edwards syndrome. the next day we paid for a private nuchal fold scan with blood tests this time sonographer was very thorough baby has a nasal bone healthy tricuspid doppler and is very active measured its head correct size her measurement was 3.2 combined with my bloods odds have come down to 1:1128 and 1:3444 for edwards. me and boyfriend only went for private scan as the sonographer at the nhs filled us with no confidence. we dont want the amino or cvs as we will love our baby no matter what plus we had a mmc in January so we don't want to take that risk have another scan booked for 16 weeks to check babie again has anyone else had a similar experiance? Thanks x