Feel bad but worried about DP harming baby.

[crazyh]

I feel really bad, and i am worried about my partner too, so much so it is on my mind a hell of alot, i would be greatful for any advice.
My dp has epilepsy, with no known triggers, and no patterns 2 how often he has a fit, and when he does have a fit there is no warnings which means he drops to the floor. This is worrying at the best of times for me but as i am 24wks pregnant with our first child, i am worried about him having a fit when he is stood up holding her or if he is the only person with her, as he is often dazed, confused and extremely tired after a fit, and doesnt even know hes had 1 till someone tells him. i want him and our daughter to have a normal father daughter relationship but i know i will be constantly worried
i would be greatful if anyone who has been in a similar situation could please give me sum advice mainly to help us maybe put sum precautions in place when shes born an 2 ease the worry. thanks in advance

Hi crazyh, what a worry for you.

I can't give any specific advice I'm afraid, but what does your DP think about this? Surely if there is a risk he might have a fit and injure the baby then he won't want to be on his own with it? For the baby's safety I mean.

Investigate getting a seizure detection dog. Even if there are no triggers that you would see, a dog can be trained to spot stuff that a human would need ESP to see. That way your DH could put the baby down when the dog warns him. www.workingdogs.com/vcepilepsy.htm

I strongly recommend you investigate it.

Yh hes worried about it too, the only thing we have come up with is me doin all the night feeds as we think excessive tiredness or broken sleep might be one of the triggers, he is on medication for this but has had 2 fits in the past 6wks, do you think my own GP would be able to offer me any advice?

I would definitely suggest talking to your GP about it.
Also, do you use any epilepsy support groups/forums? Bound to be people on there who have had babies so you could ask them how they handled things.

I am in the process of googling different support networks atm, mostly found ones for mums with epilepsy but will keep looking.
Thankyou Elsa will look into it as i have never heard of this before.
Thanks for the advice, did feel quite bad about worrying about our baby when it is actually DP with the illness, glad to know people dont think im worrying over nothing