When to tell?!?!

[AmIGoingMad]

Hi all!
I'm 5+5 (think that's how it works for 5 weeks and 5 days?!) and so excited but apprehensive too as I know it's early days!
Just wondering what your thoughts are on sharing the news early?
We've told parents and our siblings. We want to tell everyone now but I'm scared- this is first pregnancy so not sure what to expect. I'm planning on telling my boss but I work in a school and it's not generally a good place for secrets! What have you ladies done?

With my first I told my boss and my best friend before I had my 12 weeks scan. Then I told my parents etc.

With DD2 I told pretty much everyone after 6-8 weeks.

With DS I told everyone after about 48hrs of finding out myself..... I needed some time for it to sink in!!!

First one told most people work and family before 1st scan. 2nd pretty much the same, then had a misscarriage at 7 weeks and this last 3rd one only told two people at work before 1st scan because I was so sick and tired, but everyone else after 1st scan.

If you want to tell people I would suggest you only tell those who you would also tell if you miscarried. I miscarried my first pregnancy at 7 weeks, had told only one of my closest friends and she was brilliant. It was quite an upsetting time and the thought of having to tell people at work, hubbys friends etc etc would have been horrible. I'm not trying to be negative but something like 25% of first pregnancies miscarry.

So my advise would be to only tell those you feel you have to or whose support you would need if all doesn't go to plan.

Good luck

Thanks for advice! I keep swinging between telling people now (cos if something was to happen I'm one of those that needs support) and waiting (in case I jinx things which is probably a silly way to think but my name should explain that!) x

Ditto to what splatt said - only tell those that you tell anyway if you had a miscarriage. Otherwise, if things went wrong, you'd have people asking about the pregnancy.

We're not telling people outside of this criteria until we've had an okay 12 week scan and NT test. I had a private scan at 8 weeks and we've told a few friends since then, but only those that we'd tell if I had another MC anyway.

Only tell close family and friends for now. Then, after your scan, show everyone the scan photos.

I agree with the above. I only want to tell people whose support I would need if something went wrong.

I am very early pregnant with DC2. I have told the people I want to. Unfortunately a couple of others know that I am not happy about.