15 weeks and still of sex - books say libido should be up by now..

[blondecat]

Hi Ladies

A bit worried here - I am 15 weeks pregnant, no longer sick, just some back pain and off sex. Am a bit worried as the books say my sex drive should be up now and DH has read them so finds me a bit strange.

We do it once a week now and frankly I'd be happy if we didn't.

Has anyone else had a similar problem?

What to do?

Astrid 1983, I am so sorry - it sounds awful. I'd be devastated if DH did that. I am lucky / or not in that DH so far completely unaffected and makes big speeches on how sexy pregnancy is. It is annoying but also reassuring. I feel awful and to be honest relived even if I am off it. V selfish of me as basically I'd like him to a) find me sexy b) not want to have sex.

Hope yours changes his mind. Mine found a pregenancy for dads book to read and it made him super sensitive to me and my self esteem. But then as we said before books can be a load of .

I haven't read the whole thread, but wanted to share that I have been off sex for the entire pregnancy. At first a libido issue, and now more related to hip/pelvis pain and repeated urine infections/thrush. It's just not worth it IMO. Husband asks now and then but generally understands. Ignore the books - every woman is different and now, more than ever, it's how/what you feel that matters. Baby needs a happy mother. Take care and don't make sex another thing to worry about during pregnancy, unless it's something YOU really want to focus on.

After feeling as sick as a dog for the first 15 weeks I seem to have turned into a raging nympho. However, I'm not sure how much of that is due to the fact I appear to have become ridiculously needy and perhaps my need for sex is related to my need for reasurance that, despite my belly and leaky nips, that my OH still wants to do me.

Astrid 1983 That sounds awful and there's very little you can do about it. While a lot of women will try their best to get into the mood every once in a while, even when they really don't feel like it, so many men just pull down the shutters and declare themselves closed for business when they're not in the mood.

Arguing about it is only going to make things worse for you, though. Your self esteem has already taken a knocking so you don't need any additional stress or upset on top of that. It's not the same, but try and be nice to yourself - buy lovely bath salts and spend plenty of time in the bath, go on a spa day with friends, go out on a few girls nights even if only to see a movie or get something to eat. Anything that lifts your mood and boosts your self esteem and hopefully your DH will begin to see what he's missing and come begging for you to put on the sexy nightie