AIBU to try and pass this case onto a colleague?

[comtessa]

I work in a not-for-profit organisation where we're all overworked-and-underpaid (sending this from work at 7.28pm!). I've got this case which I've got to do a lot of work with a woman who was raped, had an abortion, met her partner and has suffered multiple miscarriages and is desperate to get PG. I've told her that I'm pregnant and she seems fine with it. But I'm not sure that I am. I started crying when she said about the stillbirth she underwent and TBH I'm welling up just writing about it.
I should say here that no-one (inc. me) knew I was pregnant when I took on the case.
Help!

I don't think you would be unreasonable to try and hand it over. Is there someone else who would have the capacity to take it on? Could you swap cases?

It isn't fair on either of you to continue (I mean that in a supportive way). If you are finding it difficult then you will not be able to give her your full and impartial attention. You will also be creating stress for yourself which could eventually mean that you have to be signed off work and your collegues will have to do even more than just take over this one case.

It isn't clear from your post how far gone you are, but there may be a case for passing her over now so that she has continuity of support later as being transferred when you go on maternity leave might be harder for her. She may also find it harder to work with you when you are more obviously pregnant if you aren't already.

Remember also that there are many requests that we think of in our own minds as potentially unreasonable, but really aren't. Imagine if one of your collegues had this problem and came to you - I am sure you would do your best to sort it out and be supportive. That is the most likely response you will get.

I think the thing I would find hardest is asking for help as I would be worried that it would make me cry again.

I hope you work it out.

Ditto to what the above ladies said. And as someone who's had MCs (though nothing like as bad as this lady!), if she is going to have issues, they'll get worse the bigger you get.

Thanks all for your advice. I think it's just that I find it so hard to admit that I'm not coping, as I've always been able to deal with anything. But I guess I just need to swallow my pride and go to my team leader.
Sal321 I'm 3.5 months pregnant and just starting to show a small bump.

Thanks again.

xx