calling midwives/sonographers. desperately need advice

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hi, i am in a stress about my dates of my recent pregnancy, can anyone who knows help me please.
i got pregnant last august with an edd of 1st may, ihad scans at 6, 8, 10, 14 weeks and the usual scans, all matched the edd.
my problem is this. i very stupidly had one night stand as husband had left me. this happened on he 18th july 09. i am now terrified that the baby was conceived then, i had a period on the 25th july, which is why i didnt think about it back then.
would the scans have showed a date difference. baby was born on edd.
any advice gratefully recieved, am living on my nerves everyday

thanks guys am starting to feel abit better.
just worried that if i ovulated late and didnt get pregnant till late july would edd still be 3rd april?
i know i shouldnt read too much into eye colour but other guy had ice blue eyes, so cant help it. at delivery she had small amounts of vernix in hair and ear. midwife did comment on small placenta is that a sign of age?
he did finish anally, i was worried abkout it running down there or if i sat in it. sorry tmi.
i really do not normally behave like this, h had left me for ow.
baby looks like me and i can only see mouth same as h.
i had early scans for bleeding so would they have dated me at those

You are analysing baby too much- I have one child with green/blue eyes and two with brown. I was convinced that dd was blue eyed until she was about six months old!! As for who they look like, I don't think that that becomes apparent for ages.
Give yourself a break, your dh obviously hurt you deeply, having sex once when you were broken up is not a crime.
Try and enjoy your baby, I hope that you are working through things with your DH - I really don't think that telling him will help anyone x

hi, me again and still worrying, ive been re ading how much fetal size can vary in the early stages and i had dating scan at 13 weeks, which i believe the size can vary quite a bit.
I have tried to put it to the back of my mind, but am terrified that the longer it goes on the worse it will be for everyone.
everything is so different with this baby, has anyone else had children who look different. should i tell my husband my fears or wait.
i looked into dna testing but cant afford it.

i can understand why you are so worried but i'm not sure quite what you want anyone on here to say? I think pretty much everyone has tried to reassure you about the dates but no one can be 100% sure and give you a definate answer without a DNA test. So I think that's what you need to do, it is the only way you will be able to put your fears to rest... telling your husband is something only you can decide, but it isn't going to change the result - should you not find that out first maybe?

I hope this doesn't read as harsh, I'm not trying to be, just don't think you are ever going to get peace on this without a 100% definate answer via DNA, the opinions of MNetters (some of whom will be really knowledgable, others not) whilst obviously useful, don't seem able to put your mind at rest.

I relly hope you manage to sort this out

how old is youir second youngest child? Do you think you could get a swab and dna test to compare the two siblings with out them mentioning it to Dad?

This is a joke surely? All the scans cannot be 4 weeks out, no! And it was anal sex?!
Eyes can take months to change colour.
Seriously. get a grip.

I had scans at 6, 9, 13 and 20 weeks (and others later) with my DD and the difference in the images at all those scans was very marked, at 6 weeks it was just a fetal pole and heartbeat, 9 weeks you could see the limb buds and body shape and at 13 weeks she looked like a fully formed baby.

On this basis I would be very surprised if the very early scans were 4 weeks out as in that length of time I believe there is a big difference in the appearance of the feotus.

i am not worried anymore. thanx everyone you did help me to get everything in perspective.
i think it was mainly because she looked so different when she was born. i am used to having big babies, but now she is filling out she looks like the rest of us, and anyway i dont care anymore she is lovely and ii am not going to worry anymore.
i was also suffering with pnd so i think this played a big part in my paranoia.

It's been said enough about how it's out of the question that the baby was conceived on the one-night stand taking everything into account, just wanted to say my daughter's eyes were blue for nearly two years, then started turning greener and greener and eventually turned light green-brown by 2.5 years.

The only one of my children who still has blue-grey eyes(originally all three born with blue), now, at 8 years old, is beginning to get tiny speckles of yellow in them!

Though apparently light coloured eyes are more prone to change throughout your lifetime, deep brown usually "set" and stay like that early on .