Pregnant straight after miscarriage

[Ba8y1]

Hi all!

New mumsnetter here - have tried to find an up-to-date thread with my query, but am either useless at using the site (most probably) or there isn't one!

Just wondered if there was anyone else out there who has had a similar experience to me - hubby and I decided to try for baby in March, got pregnant (my first pregnancy), but had complete mc in April (at about 6 weeks). Thought we'd try again straight away - and had a BFP on Wed! Obviously really pleased and surprised by this, but in a bit of a pickle re 2 things:

1. How on earth do I date this? Is day of mc a pseudo-LMP? Assuming I will need early scan??

1. Keep worrying about another mc - and convinced negative energy is a bad thing - hence vicious circle!

Any advice would be greatly appreciated!! Many thanks

Hi there and congratulations!
The same thing happened to me and I am now 35 weeks pregnant .
Similar issues with dating and worrying so went to my GP to explain the situation and promptly burst into tears (very embarassing). The upshot was that she referred me to the local EPU to get a dating scan. It was far too early (4.5 weeks) so they could not say whether the pregnancy was viable or not and asked me to come back 2 weeks later to confirm either way. Obviously all was good then and there was a heartbeat, wonderful to see...
I suggest you do the same and visit your GP and asked to be referred to the EPU. Maybe you can emphasise your fears and inability to date your pregnancy to force the outcome if needs be...
Good luck!!

As the MC was early, I would use the MC date as a pseudo LMP for now. Very early MCs like this often don't screw up your cycle too much - I've had two. Would when you got a positive test fit it okay with that?

Try to take each day as it comes and work on relaxation and positive thinking. Negative thinking isn't a problem but that leads to stress which isn't great for you. As you're unsure of dates, you may well get an early scan - having one at 6-8 weeks if possible is nicer in some ways as you're more likely to see the heartbeat and so get a good viability check.

Hello and congratulations Ba8y1! I'm in the same position, except that I pretty much know when I ovulated. My mc bleeding was 4-15 (also at 6 weeks) and I ov'd right around 5-10. This was just a couple days longer than my usual cycle. According to everything I've read and heard, generally the first day you bleed for mc will generally work as lmp for dating.

I'm scared to death this time around. I managed to talk my dr into checking betas even though they usually don't. The first pregnancy, they were slow rising and lower. This time, they're nice and high and doubled with each test. It helps to have had the tests done, but as I said, I'm still scared to death. Especially since I barely have any symptoms.

I'm having a scan in two weeks. It should be right at 7 weeks- hopefully it'll measure that way.

Congratulations; the same thing happened to me, ds is now 20 months old

I had a scan at eight weeks and then one at 12 weeks.

Best of luck, and congratulations! Anyone who's had a miscarriage is scared to death when they're pregnant again. It taints things next time around. But one miscarriage doesn't make it more likely that youll have another. In fact, I had two in a row, and was told I was at no higher risk of another. Thankfully I'm now nearly 15 weeks. After 14 weeks I finally started to relax a bit.
You just hv to make sure you don't panic at every twinge. I've had pulling and tugging inside since about 6 weeks, which you should actually feel. I've also had light spotting and brown discharge, which I panicked at, but my mw didn't seem concerned about at all. Don't analyse everything cos in pregnancy pretty much anything is considered normal!

Lots of us have been in similar situations and we're more than happy to help. X

Congratulations. I can completely understand why you are worrying but try an relax. This happened to me and my dd is now 5 . Get an appointment with your GP and explain your fears. I had an early scan to work out my dates.

Hello, congratulations! The same thing happened to me in January and I am now almost 20 weeks. I mc'd between 6-7 weeks, bled for about 6 days and had a BFP 4 weeks after I started miscarrying. Have been completely paranoid ever since, but you have to think of it as a brand new pg, brand new egg, etc. I wasn't given a scan until my 12 week scan - because the mc was early and my cycle was obviously not messed up given I ov'd 2 weeks later, we (myself & doctor), just counted first day of mc as LMP. I really wanted a scan, but neither the midwives or EPU teams were particularly forthcoming and the date came through when I would have had a 12 week scan anyway! However, I did pay for a private scan at 8 weeks (er...and again at 10 weeks!). The use of a fetal doppler meant that I went to my 12 week scan more relaxed as I heard the heartbeat the night before it, so I would personally recommend one of those, even if some people don't like them.

But I have found this pg difficult emotionally, and every now and then I get really tearful as I don't feel like I "dealt" with the mc. So be really kind to yourself and expect to feel even more emotional/hormonal!

Good luck.

Thanks so much for all your answers ladies - it is really nice to know other people have some idea what I'm feeling!!

Sorry not to have been in touch again sooner - started having a little bit of spotting and decided to curl up in a ball and ignore the world... dh being very sweet right now!

Went to doc this morning and she is pursuing an early scan for me which is cool, told not to worry about all the rest (easier said than done!!)

Did another test - the controversial digital clearblue - but excitingly the number of weeks since conception has gone up (since last week) so who knows, perhaps my bHCG levels are really rising!

Huge to congrats to those of you who have had dc/are currently pregnant! What a rollercoaster this particular lifestyle choice is