my cat died

[RedCardinal]

One of my cats died this week, he was hit by a car and I am devasted. I have had a day off work and was sent home early yesterday, I can't stop crying and feel very sad. I loved this cat so much but feel guilty as it was DH favourite cat and he misses him terribly too.

Is this kind of grief bad for the baby? Part of me wonders if its more hormonal than it would have been if I wasn't pg.

Feeling sad

Just wanted to send my sympathies along to you. Our cat is very much part of our family and I know the loss must be incredibly hard.
Pregnancy does make every emotion much harder to cope with but I'd imagine worrying about being upset is likely to just make things worse. You can't help the way you're feeling but I hope time will make things easier for you.
Lots of cyber hugs...

So sorry for you Redcardinal. One of my cats died a few years ago and I was absolutely devastated too. It took me a few months to recover and I wasn't even pregnant then...
Most people don't understand how horrible it is and how you can't help feeling guilty somehow. Take good care of yourself and time to grieve. While you're obviously very sad I don't think it would have any impact on your baby. Try and take it easy in the next few weeks xx

Thank-you, I'm sure time will heal. Thanks for the cyber hugs x

i will echo ashandsash here - only another pet owner can really understand the grief of losing ones pet. they are a part of the family and you need to grieve for them as much as you would any other member of family. it is extremely sad now, but im sure you'll find a way to come to terms with it soon enough - the prospect of shortly bringing a new little life into the world for example.
lots of hugs from a fellow cat-owner.

i cryed like a baby wen my cat got ran over .i was not pg ,but still part of the fam

So sorry to hear about your cat, ours died last July, and I still cry now when I think too much about him. I'm sure your baby won't be affected by the grief. All I can add is take your time grieving for him and let yourself do it. Gradually it will get easier to think about him without crying your eyes out, I promise.

Another cyber hug here. I wish more employers sympathised when people's pets died and sent them home! Nothing to say to make it better, but as for your pregnancy, my cousin's beloved cat died when she was pregnant and she sobbed for a week - but her 3 1/2 y.o. DS is absolutely fine and a very happy little lad

Just wanted to send my deepest sympathy. I think I cried every day for 2 weeks when my last cat died (and I was lucky, he died of heart failure in his old age) and I know I'd be devastated if anything happened to my current cat. So I feel for you. If you love a pet then losing him/her is devastating, pregnant or not. Do you have any pictures and things to remember him by? I framed a couple of pictures after my cat died. Whatever little cathartic things you need to do to get by can help. x

I am going to frame some pictures but my DH has warned me not to do it yet as I am still too upset. Thank you all for your kind comments.

Red Cadinal xxx

Just adding my sympathies RedCardinal. One of my cats died a few years ago at 4 years old of very sudden kidney failure - so although it wasn't an accident like your poor cat it was the same sudden, unexpected shock and loss. I wasn't pregnant and had no children, and the loss hit me so hard. And my DH, it is only normal since they really are part of the family. I cried every day for the first few weeks, but slowly and surely you do get over it.

You can't suppress your grieving (even if you tried it would never work and would just prolong your pain) so I would say just go with your feelings and be kind to yourself. The last thing you need to add to this is guilt towards your baby. I hope you feel better soon and sending lots of hugs your way.

so sorry to hear about this .

We had our cat put sleep in October, after a short but terminal illness. We were devastated, and I miss her still even though we've now two lovely new rescue moggies at home.

I lost a cat during my last pregnancy and found the grief quite overwhelming too... i think the pregnancy hormones amplify it. I cried for days and found it quite difficult to get over.

I'm so sorry for your loss, losing a pet is hard at any time but even worse when pregnant and emotional