Stupid fears arrgghh

[Loubilou09]

I have been fine up to now, completely relaxed but now got silly fears over something trivial. 2 years ago when I lost my son at 24 weeks there were another two women pregnant at work who were exactly the same gestation as me, I distinctly remember thinking Wow three of us pregnant wonder if we all make it and I didn't. This time round I have one of my team just about to leave on maternity so okay could argue that it is slightly different but just got an email from another team member who is 14 weeks pregnant and I am having silly anxieties about there being three of us again - bizarre I know....that coupled with the fact that all I have seen for three weeks is single bloomin magpies!!

Didn't want to leave you unanswered.

But you know these fears are stupid - but completely understandable given your history.

I remember getting really weird about magpies too. But you know if you salute them and say "Morning/Afternoon" you stop the bad omen

I'm really sorry about your loss. That's awful. Obviously your fears don't come from an intellectual place and you know they are irrational, but it doesn't mean that they'll stop just because you know that! The reality is that life never repeats itself in the same way - it's just your brain hitting on a familiar fear. You'll have a beautiful baby. Whenever the fear comes in, replace it with another positive mantra. Lots of luck xx

How are you today?

Hope you're feeling a wee bit more positive. Newdawn is very wise about replacing the bad thoughts with good ones.

Didn't ask how far along you are? Have you had any scans? Have you discussed your fears with your MW? After a late MC a friend was told she could almost 'drop in' to hear the babys heartbeat etc just to put her mind at rest.

Let your MW/GP know and they might do something similar for you

My baby girl died at 4 days old and I am now 33 weeks pregnant and like you sometimes things happen which make me think about the last time. These are both good and bad but I do have hangups abou stuff from the last pregnancy for example the pram, this was bought the day my baby was born premature at 30 weeks. I have the pram at home but not touched opend or anything as I just think it may bring bad luck.

You are bound to have these feelings and its not silly but just remember this is a different pregnancy and a different time. I am sure all will be ok.

Good Luck

I don't think your anxieties are silly, you are certainly not the only one having them. I lost my last baby at 22 weeks, now I am 16 weeks pregnant and going through exactly the same thing. I don't know whether there's anything you can do to make it better (I know, not helpful, sorry), but I am fairly sure it is totally normal.
On the magpie side, I have concluded it is their single season, and this should in no way be taken personally by pregnant women : )