Newly pregnant in need of help!!

[juliec26]

I really dont know what is wrong we me.. Me and Dp have been trying for a baby for some months and found out a week ago that I was pregnant. At first I was excited and now I just feel numb. I have 1 dd 4 yrs old with my xh, he left as he didnt do like being a full-time dad - I just cant seem to get rid of these feelings..I am scared things will go wrong and I will need to stay in hospital away from my dd, worried about birth, my last one was a nightmare just long and assisted, came home next day but had 2 infections of the 200 stitches i had (sorry if tmi) and I just feel utterly miserable and I dont know why - last week I felt massively in love with dp now I just feel numb - crying at the fact I have even written such a horrid thing as he is so lovely and is totally over the moon about it all - dont want to tell anyone as 2 dc by 2 different partners was obviously not my life plan - Just so hoping its hormones - any support would be welcome!

You're probably just in shock - totally understandable and much more common than you think, I promise. I am sure you will be feeling more excited when the news has had time to sink in. I am sure that the birth will go fine this time and you must think that your DP will be a good Dad, if you have been trying for months. It will be ok, don't worry

Thank you BB- just seems odd to have wanted something so much and feel this odd about it - dp will be a fantastic dad - made sure I got it right this time lol - he is amazing with my dd and is so excited, which makes me feel worse for being so miserable - I am so negative and really want to have a much more positive outlook, but find it hard to to xx

Juliec26,

I can relate to what you're saying. I found out 6 days ago I'm pregnant for the 1st time and am filled with doom and gloom, and guilt that I'm not feeling happy and joyful. It's just all so new and overwhelming. In your case, having had a traumatic birth last time, I'd say your feelings are completely understandable. And remember there's all those hormones to blame too! Don't beat yourself up. Your fella sounds lovely, maybe you can talk it through a bit with him? Hope everything progresses fine, and that as time goes on you'll start feeling more positive.

T

T congratulations x - I just didnt feel like this last time and feel so gutted I am not jumping for joy especially as we have wanted it for a while and I have been day dreaming of this time for the last 6 months and now it here - can barely think straight! so hard not telling people as at work I just want to burst into tears and tell someone! but at same time dont think I could share their joy at this moment
Good thing is on here there is always someone feeling like you and makes me feel a whole lot better just knowning people are here to chat to about it - have spoken to dp who is lovely as ever - Am more determined than ever to have a good birth, starting reflexology tomorrow, as would love a home birth - just not sure I have the pain threshold - epidrual was the best thing ever xx