1st time mums

[KELS78]

Hi all,
Im goin 2 be a first time mum in october,
I would love 2 find out what Im havin at my 20 scan,
Am I wrong 2 want this???

why would it be wrong?

I haven't found out either time, but it is a very personal thing

FWIW, your baby may not cooperate and show the relevant bits!

Congrats on your PG

No, definately not wrong op. It's personal choice. TBH I'm tired of people telling me how wrong I am for wanting to find out!

Congratulations on your pregnancy.

I am due in september and I found out, I agree though it is a very personal choice and you have to do what is right for you.

congrats, i found out with all 3 of mine, glad i did, purely because im an inpatient person and i wanted to choose a name, get proper clothes and decorate etc!

It's totally up to you and how you feel! I was set against it for ages but then when I felt the baby kicking I felt an overwhelming need to know "who" they were! Weird!

Congratulations KELS, I am a first timer due in Oct too... don't let anyone else's views on anything get to you. Everyone you meet seems to have an opinion on everything you are going to do... finding out sex, tests, birth options, breast feeding etc etc etc. Just remember this is your baby and you can do it all how you want! That's what makes them all turn out differently!

We aren't finding out what we are having but like everyone else has said, it's so personal.

xxx

I think you should do exactly what YOU want!

i am having my first in august and ive been told that i am srange for NOT finding out.

When you are pregnant everyone things you need their input - smile and say thank you for your opinion - now P*ss off! lol

This is my first, and if the Bean co-operates, I will definitely find out the gender.

This is your pregnancy, your labour, your baby... do what you feel is best.

Personally I am finding out (if I can), because I need to avoid as much doubt as possible, and to have some kind of steer on what colours I should be knitting in...!

Go for it! I couldn't wait to find out the sex of my baby (my ds is 4 months old now). I'm a teacher and I then had great fun discussing names with my students - Shakespeare, Steinbeck, Romeo etc...

I did have some pressure from others saying "Why do you want to spoil the surprise?" etc but this just made me laugh - as if it's not going to be exciting enough to have a newborn baby! They seemed to think it would be a disappointment because I already knew the sex - far from it!

The main thing I have learned from being a new mum is do what feels right for you. Personally I find it really hard to understand people who DON'T find out but obviously it's their choice too!

Im on pg 4 and found out everytime. Dont worry what anyone else say's it's your choice.
You'll soon learn that what ever you decide theye are a team of people for and against - wait till you think about breast feeding and names.

Great post and great sensible answers.

So glad we haven't had any 'dont spoil the suprise' responses they always drive me

Good luck whatever you decide.

x

I'm a first time mum too, due in 4 weeks and I found out I was having a boy at my 20 week scan! Me and DF both decided we wanted to know so we could decorate the nursery accordingly, get suitable clothes and decide on the name. Also I love knowing something of the little kicker in my tummy, refering to him by name makes me feel closer to him.

I totally know why so many people wait though. What an amazing surprise at the end of a very long 9 months!

You should do what you want and not let people pressure you. It's a personal decision and its YOURS to make.