Just had positive test for baby no. 2 this morning, complete shock has set in. help

[TettyLouBar]

Hi all,
DD1 is coming up for 2 in June. Dh and I had an understanding that we both wanted more but we would wait until the end of the year (his job is taking him away for nearly 4 months in July)
I'm 3 days late (never happens) and did a test this morning which came back positive. I have all the signs I had last time (funny twinges if I twist to quickly, sore boobs, emotional etc)
so I knew something was up before I realised I was late.

I'm in total and utter shock. Just wasn't expecting this now. We're both pleased but just speechless.

anybody been through this and can just talk to me?

Tetty (sorry called you Teddy earlier ) this PG might be unexpected but it's staying .

They tried to give me advice at my 6 weeks post natal check but I told them we didn't need to hear it as wouldn't be going there again .

The midwives in our local hospital live in horror when I'm PG.

oh bless you. It must be very disconcerting when the midwives are holding their breath when you walk in the room!

But they have a job to do and yours and the babies health during the PG and after, no matter how complex, is their priority. Don't give yourself any added issues to worry about. The most important thing now is for you to relax and let the news sink in. Your going to be fine.

So when will you get the next opportunity to tell DH? Are you waiting til he comes home or is he away for a long time? My Dh is off to the Falklands! Couldn't have picked a further spot!

DH is on his way home! Part of the road is closed to due an accident so he'll be delayed. Hopefully I can tell him tonight.

I think the midwives worry about the distances involved. Putting on my optomistic hat now and I am sure this PG will be fine with no hiccoughs.

I'm sure you will be fine too. You're DH is away to the Falklands? Is he in the Army? DH used to be Army but didn't get to see the Falklands.

Dh is RAF. I'm ex RAF too. He's managed to skip a tour for about 6 years now through one thing and another. I'm just pleased he's going before the birth and will be back and not due away again for a while after the birth too! So its actually better if he goes now!

He's gutted as he'll miss scans and things but its better than missing 'B'day!

So where are you in the world to be so far from the health professionals?

Just had another thought. I'm one of twins (my twin died in utero) and DH has twins on his side.

We always went to scans with trepidation in case they saw two heart beats. What if it happens this time? From 4 to 6 children in seconds lol.

Surely not.

welllll... its not out the question!
We have twins on both sides of our family too, but not directly related. DH did joke about that this morning!

Why dont you go for triplets and double your numbers!

They say the hardest adjustment is going from none to one child but that doesn't reassure me right now!

Are you the type that need to know the sex too? I think we will. we knew DD was coming.

I'd like to know the sex .

We live in the Highlands so miles from anywhere. We have a small local hospital but depend on the city hospitals for most births. Our GP's refuse to attend births at all .

I've had 2 sections now and would love a VBAC, but again my consultant is worried about shoulder dystocia and discourages a VBAC for this reason.

Triplets? Good Lord lol.

Well let me know how you get on tonight! Best of luck! Gotta go, DD just woken and wants to play!
Thanks for keeping me company! Keep me posted!

We moved into our new house on the Friday and I did a test on Sunday after throwing up for england and it was positive. We were beyond shocked we already had DD 22mth DS 4mths I was on the pill and completely BF. I still remember sitting on our new sofa surrounded by boxes feeling lost. That unexpected gift is DD2 and 2.
Im now 30+5 with DC4 (planned) and couldnt be happier. BTW if you every met DD2 you'd know she was just 'meant' to happen - strongwilled is not the word!

Thanks vicbar, thats a reassuring story.

ML - how did it all go with DH?

My DH got home late last night from his trip away and it seemed to do us good to be apart for a few hours yesterday to let the news sink in without having to talk about it to each other. He feels a lot more comfortable with it today and I must say so do I. Although every now and again a new realisation pops into my head about stages of new borns and things I thought we'd left behind for a while that we went through with DD like teething!

Hi Tetty

DH was stunned and the news took a while to sink in but he's quite chuffed .

I feel better today too and have started symptom spotting! Just waiting for the nausea to kick in...

Oh I hear you! I am 5 months pregnant and have a 1 year old. At my age we thought it would take at LEAST 6 months to conceive - well bugger me the first time we had unprotected sex I get up the duff.

I was in complete shock - none of the excitement of the first time. Just panic panic panic at the thought of having two children under 2 and an overriding feeling of it all being too soon after baby number 1.

If it helps, I feel much much happier about it as have focused on all the benefits of getting my babies out of the way quickly. I still have my moments of "how the fuck am I going to manage?" and the whole "I won't love them as much as baby number 1" but think this is normal!

ML - thats really good that DH is chuffed. These things are meant to happen - I'm a firm believer in that!
My symptoms seem to have developed quickly since I found out - boobs sore, lots of back ache, emotional etc. But I also think it may be psychological now that I'm aware? I'm trying to stay positive that I wont get nausea this time....10 weeks of it with DD

Toot - I was a little naive the first time with DD as I thought when I came off the pill I would take a few months to conceive, but straight away, that month I fell preggers! But its the best thing that ever happened to us and I'm confident that this next little bundle will be just as great.