Baby due 10 days before DS's 3rd birthday - what should I do about a party/celebration?

[BettyButterknife]

I feel bad that DS's birthday might come and go in a fog of newborn sleep deprivation on the part of his parents.

Has anyone else had a similar experience and what did you do for your older DC?

Thinking of getting my mum to have a party at hers, so we will be 'just guests'!

I would do a special day out on his birthday (if you are up to it), of his choosing. Could be a picnic in a park.

Who would you want to invite? Tell them to come along, bring sandwiches, crisps etc. Buy cake from M&S or Tesco. Take deckchair. Relax in deckchair while your Mum runs about after your DS.

DD was due the day before DS2's 2nd b/day.

I invited a very few people for his birthday and warned them I might call them very late to say "don't come I'm in labour".

In the event she was late so we had a mini-party with me looking mahoosive. at memory.

This is a bit trickier for you - by the time you get to DS's birthday you will almost deffo have baby; how about an early celebration so you will still be pg (eg a fortnight before?) and then just plan a tea party at grans on the day?

Sorry DD due day before DS1's 2nd birthday, DS2 was a long way off then!

I would def go with the grandparent thing. Doesn't even have to be a party - could they take them out for a special bday treat day and part of your present to them could be a special treat 'voucher' - they can choose whatever they want to do with a friend and you will do it in a couple of weeks time - eg swimming or picnic etc.

I'm in a similar situation, DC2 due 10 days after DD1's birthday though having an elcs so their birthdays are likely to be much closer together. Not great planning!!

Planning to have small bday cake, cards, gifts from DH and I on the day, assuming I'm not in hospital. If I am then her bday this year will be a few days out! Having a combined party with her best friend a month later when well be back up to speed!

Thanks for the suggestions, I think I'll pass them on to DH and with my mum to see what they think. Glad to hear we're not the only ones!

Had a similar problem when DS2 was due (around the date of DS1 first birthday). Had cake and present ready and a couple of relatives invited, but of course went into labour and had DS2 4 days before the birthday - as DS2 had jaundice and needed to "under the lights", we were both still in hospital, but with a little bit of pleading the hospital were happy enough to discharge me for 3hours to attend DS1 little party - the relatives did all the work of course, then it was back to the hospital for me!