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Pregnant with 5th Baby...Shocked!!

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busymum05 · 05/05/2010 18:32

Ive Just found out that we are expecting our 5th baby!!!
We are still in state of shock, Thought we had finished our family at number 4 and im now feeling a bit nervous about how we will cope with 5 children, not to mention telling the rest of the family ( they were disappointed about number4!!) Is there anyone else who has got 5 children...how do you cope??

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xkatyx · 05/05/2010 19:07

Oh wow congratulations.

There is a topic on larger family's prob find loads of advice on there, good luck

Violet5 · 05/05/2010 20:38

Hi, i've just found out i'm expecting my 6th ! 2 of my 5 children have disabilities too . I can totally sympathize with you about telling people and the rest of the family. My friends and family were disapointed at the news of number 4 then 5...so i cant wait to tell them about number 6 .
Congratualtions though

As you already have 4 i'm sure you'll cope with your 5th addition, i was worried too but she just slotted right in like the others and they all adore their baby sister.

We do have a fairly rigid morning,tea time, homework and bedtime routine which is how our family/home runs. Wouldn't be for everyone but with 2 children with disabilities it's just the way i've found of coping.

Best of luck with everything and i hope you get a few more congratulations from people when you tell them than you're expecting

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busymum05 · 05/05/2010 21:23

Thanks Violet5 and Xkatyx,

Wow 6 children, We already run hectic lifesyles with the children but i love every minute of it, I hope my number 5 will slot in nicely, im kinda thinking sod what everyone else thinks but still not nice knowing that we will be topic of conversation
with the obvious things being said!!!

Hope all goes well hen you break your news
about number 6,let me know how it goes and il keep you posted.
congratulations to you.

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Violet5 · 05/05/2010 21:44

Thanks, will do.

I'm not telling most of my family until after my 20 week scan when hopefully we'll find out if the baby is a boy or a girl and then i'll break it to them by saying 'we're delighted to say we're expecting x in Dec'.

I can get away with that as almost all my family live 400 miles away.

I try not to think about what will be said about me at the school gates though when people find out. I'll probably have to tell people i see daily at around 16 weeks when i start showing.

I love my big family though and i wouldn't change it for anything, like you i love every minute of it.

Take care

slushy06 · 05/05/2010 21:53

I only have two but hope for a big family congratulations.

Bugger the family and friends I am sick of people judging others it is not like it is any of their business or like they have to do anything. Those that care about you will be happy for you and f**k those that moan, obviously not happy with their own lives.

Congratulations and enjoy being pg again .

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busymum05 · 06/05/2010 07:14

Lol slushy06,
and thanks.

Our families live on our doorstep, we not sure when to tell them, im would like to wait till after 12 week scan but not sure if we can hide it for that long as they will get suspicious when they notice im not having my usual tipple of vodka and coke lol!!!
In a way i just want it over and done with as at the moment i feel as if im doing something wrong!!!
I have told one really close friend and she was really good about it and said only positive things, fingers crossed when we reveal our secret to the world we will get the support and love we need...after they pick their jaws up from the floor lol....lets just hope we only have 1 on the way and not twins now that would be a jaw dropper...lol

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pinkstuff · 06/05/2010 10:48

hi and congratuations.
I had my 5th chilld on sat, dd3.
she was not planned and neither was my 4th child. yes i could have been more careful but don't regret any of it i love them all to bits and they are all so different.
my marriage was in trouble before and during some of this pregnancy so i had quite a stressful time but now my baby girl is here i wouldnt change it for the world.
don't worry about negative comments. we have to put up with people telling us to sort out vasectomy now, we just wind them up by saying we will just have one more!!!.
the midwife at my hospital was the eeldest of five and she was so positive about it.
i am looking forward to when they have their own partners/families and we all get together. life is busy and i do worry that we are meeting all their needs but can only do our best regardless of how many children we have, and anyway I always have someone to hold the baby

EMS23 · 06/05/2010 13:03

I'm so shocked that family and friends who are meant to love and support you could actually be disappointed by you having more children. Really really shocked.

Good luck to all of you having big families, planned or otherwise!
xx

Disenchanted3 · 06/05/2010 13:05

Congratulations!

No advice, I only have 3 but wanted to wish you all the best

karney · 06/05/2010 14:42

Congratulations! You have coped with 4 kids and I'm sure you'll know exactly what to do with No5. People like to judge it makes them feel better as if they know best but its your life, not theirs!. I,m due my 2nd baby now and my Ds is only 20 months. The amount of people that have told me that I'll never have any time to myself and I'll have my hands full all the time...honestly...there's nothing like a bit of positive encouragement eh .It'll be Ok x

welshandproud · 06/05/2010 15:10

Congratulations! I'm very envious. DC4 is only 8months old and i'd do it again right now if DP hadn't had the snip! We'd need a new car though as ours only has 6 seats.
How much harder can 1 more be?

LuluF · 06/05/2010 17:14

Congratulations! How wonderful!

I almost can't believe that your family were disappointed about number 4 - and that they actually told you. No wonder you're dreading telling them about number 5. And then I remembered that my FIL strongly advised to us stick at 3 (we've just found out we having number 4 and haven't told them yet) as 4 children is too many, according to him. I did point out that he had had 6, but that was different because he 'couldn't help it', apparently.

I don't know what it is about pregnancy, from naming them, to where you have them, to how many you have - everyone's got an opinion and they all think you want to hear it.

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busymum05 · 07/05/2010 07:48

Omg...all great comments thankyou all so much, im off to the doctors this morning to get booked in for hospital, think il tell the family our news when we've seen mw for first time, i have a plan of action and have worked out an answer for everything negative that could be said lol!!
thankfully having 4 children we already had a 7 seater car so there was always room for one more lol

will update when ive reavealed my secret.
thanks again everyone for positive comments, i feel much better knowing that people do cope with large families xxx

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busymum05 · 14/05/2010 08:48

Hi all,
Well we finaly told the most important person we were dreading telling and to my surprise it went really well...i really should have more faith in my family, we have the full support from her, i have now stopped worring what other people think and im starting to enjoy the exciting times of being a mummy again xx

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comewhinewithme · 14/05/2010 08:55

Congratulations .

I have 6 dc and no 5 was a shock but honestly she fitted right in and is a such a happy girl I'm so glad we did it.

I find a strict week routine works for our family and then chilling out at weekends and going more with the flow of things.

Online food shopping and meal planning helps me a lot and cuts a lot of time out .

Good luck with everything.

gemcgem · 14/05/2010 11:33

Congratulations im 31 weeks pregnant with dc 6 an all where planned . an yeah totally agree with every thing comewhinewithme said my eldist is 9 an the current youngist is 2 but i love them all an wouldn't change athing , an i allways said right from being small that id have 7 children so no my family really arn't that shocked ! nice to see so many full on mums !

lpa · 14/05/2010 11:36

Well done and congratulations!!!!
We're having a third baby and same here for non immediate family and friends, they think we're mad and how will we cope etc etc, plus if we already have a girl and a boy why have another! I keep getting asked why make life difficult for me just when its getting easy - we CHOSE to have this baby and want it very much.....
All the best and congratulations again!

loishayley · 17/05/2010 21:34

congratulations honey!

i too am expecting number 5 in june and was scared to tell anyone as number 4 will only be 10 months old when he is due.

actually the reaction wasn't as bad as before but I think that down to my mum having a new partner and he calmly asked her what the problem with 5 children was. He pointed out that "its great fun as its another granchild to fill full of smarties, jiggle about and hand back".

He told her the hard work was for me and my partner and theey get all the good bits. this semed to click with her and she reacted fine.

Altho my nan did say, "what are you trying for a council house". dont quite get where she coming from but she is old and soon forgot what she said lol

just do what you want how can they judge once bubs is here and they see his/her cute little button nose.

good luck xx

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