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Big surprise - I'm pregnant again [shock]

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stclair · 05/05/2010 16:11

I've just done a pregnancy test to find it positive which I wasn't really expecting. I have a 9 month old and don't feel at all ready to be pregnant again! Is anyone out there in a similar boat? My husband is away on business so I just had to tell someone as almost hyperventilating here!

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sunshiney · 05/05/2010 16:14

Hi, I'm not in the same situation but just wanted to answer your post.

Are you ok? Myself and no doubt others are here to listen if you want to talk.

LadyintheRadiator · 05/05/2010 16:24

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stclair · 05/05/2010 16:25

Thanks sunshiney. I think my main concerns are I just aren't ready for the worry of being pregnant again yet - ie miscarrying, will be baby be ok etc etc. My last pregnancy took 6 months to conceive, I had nasty morning sickness, had terrible food aversions, swelled up from about 5 months, and all-in-all didn't particularly enjoy being pregnant! And I haven't even gotten back to my original self yet . I also feel I won't have time just to enjoy my dd . . . I know it's very early days and anything could happen but I have to get used to the idea I may have a late Christmas present!

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stclair · 05/05/2010 16:27

Good question Lady . . . condoms but I do recall one instance where one wasn't! I'm 37, it's supposed to be harder to get pregnant right?!

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sunshiney · 05/05/2010 16:53

no doubt an 18 month gap is very hard work, but they really will reach a stage of entertaining each other and it'll become so much easier.

i am going to have a near three year gap. having had an only child until now i can say it is quite hard going being the sole source of stimulation/interaction in my child's world a lot of the day.

i understand what you mean about wanting to have got back to your original self before starting it all again too.

if you were planning to have another child, when would have been your ideal time to become pregnant?

have you got family around to help you out a bit when your new baby arrives?

CherryPie3 · 05/05/2010 17:18

Hi, first of all congratulations on your pregnancy.

I have a 15month age gap between my dd and ds and although it was bloody hardwork when they were small (mainly the double buggy) - they are now 5 and nearly 4. I should add that it was planned, just didn't expect to fall pg quite so quickly (first month) I wouldn't change it for it the world tho. They are so incredibly close it's unbelievable. Always have a playmate and always want to have a sleepover in eachothers rooms - especially if its a tv night (fri/sat).

I'm currently 28wks pregnant with dc3 and although I'm thrilled to pieces that I'm expecting again - I'm worried that the older 2 are so close to eachother that they won't be interested in the new little one.

Not sure how much this will help but I just wanted to share my experience with you xx

loulou77 · 05/05/2010 21:53

Congratulations...was just nipping through and saw this. I have 13 months between my eldest two children (slightly less than there should have been as DS was premature...nothing to do with the age gap)

My top tip is get plenty of iron rich foods and badger your MW about iron tablets/checking your haemoglobin as you get to the 6 month mark. I didn't and did get quite anaemic...I think it's one of the few things you won't have had much time to rebuild reserves of.

Good luck x

loulou77 · 05/05/2010 21:55

if indeed you can store iron anyway, the consultant said my anaemia was due to the two being quite close and iron tablets sorted it out!

bubblebabeuk · 06/05/2010 05:47

Congratualations, I too am having a suprise baby my youngest will be 11 months old when the next is due. I only found out I was pregnant and how fgar gone when I had a scan at what was to turn out to be 11.5 weeks. Last time was horrendous in and out of hospital, this time so far no real symptoms, could be because I'm having a boy this time I don't know. Only problem for me has been plumeting Iron levels, I can't tolerate Oral Iron so I had an Iron Infusion two weeks ago organised by my consultant.
I wish you all the very best in your little suprise

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stclair · 06/05/2010 08:43

Thank you for your encouraging messages ladies, just what I needed. DH came home from his trip last night and was so supportive and happy about it I felt more of 'I can do this!'. Have taken on board comments re iron and will get cracking on the liquid stuff. In response to your questions sunshiney, unfortunately neither DH or I have any family in the UK whatsoever so may have to look at alternative help for a while . . . although am sure mother/sister would come over for a while. I guess I hoped to have a second baby when DD was over the age of two anyway.

Thanks again and I hope you have a better pregnancy this time bubble.

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rollars · 06/05/2010 19:13

Hi
I've always wanted 4 children but was chugging along nicely with the 3 boys I've already got!
So was a surprise when I found out I'm pregnant again! (even after 4 tests and a scan it's only just sinking in!)
I already have a 6 year old then an almost exactly 3 years between the next 1 then 14 months between 2 and 3! That was a shock though! Falling pregnant when baby was only 6 months old and still spending most of his time in hospital as he was a very poorly baby.
But we coped really well!
So now I'm more worried how he'll cope with a baby. Anyway diverting off the subject slightly, sorry!

You'll be fine with the age gap, apparently 18months is the 'ideal' age gap!
When are you due?

All the best

Esme01 · 06/05/2010 22:26

try to get over the shock as quick as you can and try to enjoy it. I was in same situation as you when my son was 8 months old. I found out the week I went back to work after maternity leave. Was gutted and so upset. Now I think it was the best thing ever. Would never have had them so close if it was planned!
They are best friends now. They completely entertain one another 100% of the time. Just fabulous. I wish i had enjoyed every minute of the pregnancy. Good luck

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stclair · 07/05/2010 08:47

Thanks rollars and Esme. It does sound like it's a good age difference once they are over their baby stage. I come from a family of four with several years between all of us - my sister is the oldest (me youngest) and there is 16 yrs between us so not used to a particularly close family I guess!
This little one is due beginning of January. To be honest, I am starting to feel more enthusiastic about the whole thing already. Fortunately I had resigned from my job as couldn't fit around my dd, so I guess why not?

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4andnotout · 07/05/2010 08:56

I have a 13 month gap between dd3 and dd4 and it has turned out to be much easier than the 3 year gaps I have between the other two.
You will already be used to sleepless nights, nappies and travellng with a baby so it doesn't come as a shock to the system.
When they get older they will be at similar stages and it will be easier to entertain them than say a 12 year old and a 5 year old.
Congratulations and remember to enjoy every minute as it all flies too fast.

girlsyearapart · 07/05/2010 09:10

you will be fine- I have year between dds 1 and 2 and will have approx 22 months between dd2 and dc3.

All planned but quicker than expected to conceive so still felt a bit shocked.

You can do it!

Also have been told the sibling rivalry/jealousy dramatically decreases if the first child is under 2.

I am so glad we did it the way around that we did- friends who said I was mad at the time and are now having second babies with 3,4 and 5 year gaps all say they wish they'd followed suit and done it all closer.

goodlifemummy · 07/05/2010 10:21

I have just had a positive preg test - we were'nt trying at all and thought our family was complete - we have twin 5 year old girls, so we really are starting all over again, having got rid of all our baby stuff. My hub was mortified, but came round and now we are very excited although still only 7 weeks, so a long way to go before I can relax about it!

Lovethesea · 07/05/2010 10:22

I'm due #2 in 5 weeks and DD will be just turning 19 months. It was planned but again I conceived quickly which was an unknown.

I am daunted by the whole double buggy madness but also in the mode of nappies and naps anyway - so hoping another small one will slot in fairly easily.

DD is young enough to forget she was an only child for a while so hoping she wont be jealous. New one will tag along to playgroups etc with us and just have to nap on the go more than DD did!

I also had to stop work at the end of my mat leave as it was FT return or nothing for me. So I was looking for PT work when I got pregnant. I'd like 2 kids so this is feeling right for me - have second pregnancy and baby while DD is small and not too set in her ways, and then they will both be at similar playing stages after the first year.

I've other friends who are trying now for #2 and not getting pregnant so that would be a lot worse!

I think you will cope just fine, there's months to go yet and your DC will be so excited to have a small one to 'help'.

Ickklejo · 29/05/2010 22:08

i have also just found out that im pregnant and my baby is only 6 months old!! i wasnt sure about it either but my partner is over the moon and will support me with the help of our families as we have a 3yr old too! im now warming to the idea but still very nervous about another pregnancy, i will be 12 weeks pregnant when i go bk to work from maternity leave!

MrsZebra · 30/05/2010 20:13

Hi
I had a 13 month gap between my DC1 and twins. And I'm pregnant again... this will be a 20 month gap. It has been hard work but now they all eat at the same time, go to the same things and nap for two hours at the same time in the day
Ignore everyone who tells you that your life is over. I'm not wonder woman but I've managed on my own with all 3 and no family nearby. Good luck. The 1st year is hard but after that I think it's easier than a bigger gap.

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